QOTD: Fri Aug 22: Sssshhhhhhh....it's a secret!

[danger_dan]

Everyone has a secret or two that has been entrusted to them...
...whether family or friends...they've put their faith in you to keep their skeleton's in the closet...
...But can you keep a secret, or do you just have to tell someone?

[Natalka]

I'm the best secret-keeper, and family and close friends know it. Always have been.

[walkonby]

I am a vault if someone needs me. It is only right.

[Andit]

I'm very very good at keeping secrets.

The brats, not so much. Lily dog will happily show a burglar where the valuables are kept and hold the door open while they rob the place. Quincy cat has been known to display my, ahem, delicates whenever repair people come by.

[grannynellie]

It depends on what kind of secret. For example, if my DD told me that she had a crush on somebody, or if they did something embarassing at school (like fall) and didn't want their dad to know, I wouldn't tell him.

If DD wanted birth control, wanted to date somebody...big things like that, I would not keep their secret. (this was years ago, she's married now).

As for relationship with BFF, my lips are sealed. Trusting each other is very important.

[Lynn49]

There are good secrets and bad secrets, as Grannynellie pointed out. I would keep the good, but would share the bad ones with the appropriate person.

[frugal50]

i keep secrets, no need to break em

[ninna]

This seemed like an easy question til I went to answer it and did some thinking about my behaviour patterns. I'd like to think I'm a trustworthy person who would never squeal but in some cases I'm not! LOL.

It depends entirely on the circumstance. If it's something mild like grannienellie mentioned (a crush on a boy for example), I keep the secret. No problem. Continuing with grannienellie's example, if DD asked me not to tell her dad that she wanted to be on birth control, I would not honour that secret and she knows that. She knows we share everything as parents and secrets between husband and wife are, in my opinion, a recipe for disaster.

Some secrets are too heavy to bear alone and if it were a secret that impacted someone's life in a very negative way (extended family or friends) and I could do something to help by sharing that secret, then I would share it.

That said, I would only ever share a secret with my DH who I trust with my life. I can share anything with him and I like to bounce ideas off him because he sees things I might not see especially if I'm too emotionally attached to the secret I've been given or I need him to come up with solutions I might not have thought of or maybe I need him to tell me I'm just plain crazy and worry too much. I would talk to DH if someone else shared a troubling secret with me and I felt compelled to act but didn't know how to act or what to do.

The exception to this secret sharing comes to secrets my DH might harbour and share with me. In that circumstance, I would absolutely not share his secret with anyone regardless of what it was or how awful it was.

In other words, I am utterly inconsistent at best. LOL.

[bargain_hunter_lola]

I have a rule, if you don't want me to share with DH then it's best not to tell me. lol. I cannot keep things from him, nor would I want to.

BIL said it best the last time he told DH a secret - "Don't tell anyone, except of course lola - I know that when I tell you things, you'll tell her. **** and I are the same way. Just keep it a secret between you 2 and us".

Having said that, DH is the only person I would ever tell (unless extreme circumstances made me feel I had an obligation).

[MrsSunshine]

hmm to be honest, I would probably say 100% of them time, i'd keep a secret. unless it involved something serious.

[wolfwoman]

I'm so good at keeping a secrets that I have heard some that I wish I had never been told.

[hollyquaiscer]

I'm the best secret keeper ever........is that because I forget as soon as I'm told ......... No, I have kept secrets forever and always will, but as others have stated, depending on what the impact will be to others, some things need to be spoken about. I truly think that if someone tells you something in confidence that impacts themselves or someone else in a negative way, it's like asking for help but not knowing how to go about getting it.

Having said that, I would most definitely tell the person first that I need to share the information and tell them why.

[Shwa Girl]

I am a vault if someone needs me. It is only right.

the vault

[TooCouponCrazy]

I am good at keeping secrets. I tend to hate people gossiping, telling secrets, spreading around other people's business anyway. Even if it's not really a secret I have no interest in discussing anyone else's business with anyone other than that person.

[lorijane]