Help!! what to say? (to a girl)

[win-star]

Hi,

There is a girl I like through a friend. Got to know her a bit and since I am a shy person, so far only made small talk with her.


After some time I just want to be friends with her and want to become better friends. So I was asking the friend on how to ask for her number lol.

At first my thoughts where just have a normal conversation and then before leaving, I'd say "May I have your phone number? I'd like to get to know each other or become better friends"

But instead, the friend just handed me her number but said that I didn't get it from her!!

So, if I text her then tell her who I am, and she ask me how I got her number ... What should I say? Lol

[momof3heathens]

friend her on facebook.

[Darth Penguin]

Tell her the truth..A mutual friend who doesn't want to be identifed gave you her number..

[walkonby]

don't overthink any of this winstar or you'll make yourself crazy! How do you know she isn't JUST as anxious to maybe get to know YOU better? She could be wringing her hands trying to figure out how to get you to ask her out or something?? I hope you call her otherwise you will never know. As Darth said be perfectly honest about how you got her number, no deceptions....it works better in the end.

[Mrsaver]

yeah friending on facebook might be the best way. its more normal to "stumble" on someones facebook profile than it is to "stumble" across her number.. good luck let us know how it goes!

[Candini]

Ask her out for dinner! Everyone likes dinner

[bargain_hunter_lola]

Stick to your original plan.

You should be the one to ask her for her number.

If she wants to become better friends she'll give it to you, then you can call or text without having to come up with some sort of a story/cover.

Better to start things out the right way IMHO.

I understand being shy but remember: nothing ventured, nothing gained!

Maybe I'm old school but facebook/email/text means you aren't interested enough to really try.

[Lynn49]

Absolutely agree about being truthful...you asked a mutual friend for her number, but the friend asked not to let her know who gave it to you...which is understandable since people don't necessarily appreciate someone handing their phone number to anyone else. It's pretty obvious that friend trusted you with that number, but still doesn't want to be the one who gave it out.
No worries....If you don't want to ask outright for a 'date', just ask her out for a coffee...chat about the new movies that are out...if she expresses an interest in one of them, ask if she'd want to go with you....It'll be obvious one way or another whether she feels you two are a potential fit or not...don't ever be afraid to ask....one day a certain someone will say yes, and you'll live happily ever after!!

[Britanica]

All us gals love confidence. You want to show her you are confident by asking for her number yourself

[Lily369]

I agree with Darth, tell her the truth, and tell her your feeling, maybe she likes you, too.

[sweet sparrow]

DH asked one of my friends at the time to ask me if I would mind if he emailed me to say hello and catch up. We hadn't seen each other since high school and it had been almost a decade! I said I didn't mind, the friend passed on my email, and we dated, got married, and lived happily ever after.

It was a bit roundabout, but I was impressed he asked my permission and didn't just email me out of the blue (the friend would have given it to him, no questions asked).

Edit: if you're too shy for dinner, how about coffee/tea? If that goes well, you can ask her if she'd mind going out again and make plans within the week.

[bargain_hunter_lola]

I'm curious what you decided. It's been almost 10 days...

Are we going to get an update??

[dededi]

Ask her out for dinner! Everyone likes dinner

Great idea, I'm sure she would love that.

[Shwa Girl]

I'm curious what you decided. It's been almost 10 days...

Are we going to get an update??

maybe they are on a vacation out of the country and due to roaming charges, no update

[win-star]

I ended up going to ask her for her number myself ... even though it was handed to me [from a friend] LOL

I was able to have some time to escape work and meet up with a group of friends for a quick 1 hour lunch and she was there ... I started a normal conversation "hi, how are you today?" etc. etc. .... and as I had to go back to work ... I "maned up" and said "I'd like to talk some more some other time, I was wondering if I could have your number?"

She told to me with a smile ... wasn't that bad. If she had said "No" ... I might've felt bad but at least I tried

Hard to go into dating world or finding a "friend" LOL