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wimbly11 please know you are not alone in this journey called life. I'm sure most of us can admit we've had some difficult times along the way but it does get better in time.
I would suggest talking to your lawyer before agreeing/signing for added support. Can a clause of some of nature about layoffs, etc as how can he pay for something if he doesn't have the funds, just a thought, it might save you having to go through a lawyer again in the next few months.
I agree with @
Frugalbigmama since your children are young, they won't miss the added perks in life. It may take a few no's and then they will no longer ask and when they do get a treat it will be a really big deal/surprise.
I would get your dh involved in a budget meeting twice a month, yes I know it sounds easier said than done but it's a must. We do a monthly budget meeting where will do the budgeting for the month and then at the 1/2 way mark we do a quick recalculation to ensure that we are indeed on track, it makes a huge difference.
Cut expenses while you can (call to get lower rates for cellphones, cable/satellite) if you choose to keep those services.
Use what you have on hand (food wise) and look on Pinterest etc for new recipes. Also start doing batch cooking so that you have meals ahead and this will save on hydro, etc.
Live within your means I know this sounds simple but it can be quite challenging at times. Bring coffee, snacks, lunches from home for lunches or car rides, may it a challenge and reap the rewards of your accomplishments/savings.
Organize toy, clothes, book swaps, home decor or anything else you can think of. You will be shocked with how many people are in the same situation (financially) or just live a frugal lifestyle and will be excited to participate. In the nicer weather these things can be done at a park, etc.
Also if you participate in mom groups ran by your community, they often give each mother a bag of groceries for healthy eating groceries. When my 1st son was born I attended these and we were financially strapped. They offered 2 grocery bags of fresh fruits and vegetables, milk and other healthy foods which I didn't know at the time I signed up. The group was sponsored and offered weekly grocery donations from the grocery stores and was open to anyone that wanted to participate. They also had free child care so the parents could discuss there challenges and it was great.
If you are good at sewing etc, you can offer your services for extra $ or barter for goods/services you are needing. Or perhaps your husband can barter for services, etc. Shovelling snow this time of year can lead to some potential new income.
When times get tough and I've been there and we still have our own challenges, we need to think outside the box. It's difficult to change the way we live initially, our spending habits, our indulgences, our monthly expenses etc BUT there are things that we do control over. Some things like @
beckie.c said are beyond our control. There have been several years during our married life where we have struggled financially, many days/evening I cried, many bills did not get paid, we incurred tons of debts but it made us change. My dh has been fully on board with our new lifestyle for about 5 years, he does sometimes indulge in a coffee on his way home from work but our circumstances have changed drastically.
Our time to be generous with ourselves and our family is Christmas time. We save all of our pc points, sdm points, swagbucks etc, leger web survey monies for Christmas. I
If you have spare time throughout the day/evenings do surveys as it can be a little extra cash per month.
Also sign up for the sdm (optimum) and load your Monday/Wednesday/Friday and week long offers, sdm has really great sales on food items such as bread, milk, etc and you earn points.
Can you or your dh do your own oil changes, etc? just a thought
Take care of what you have, so if clothes needs mending - do it before they cannot be salvaged, if a chair needs to be glued do it before it can't be repaired or you have to pay someone to fix it, etc.
Shop at thrift store when they have sales such as fill a bag for x $, by used furniture as opposed to new. Older furniture such as dressers etc are built way better than the stuff found in stores.
Post items that you cannot swap for sale, every little bit helps.
Buy fruits and veggies that are on sale the week you do groceries. Some weeks I find it's cheaper to buy frozen veggies/fruits versus fresh.