Father Shoots Up Daughters Laptop After Facebook Post

I am sure a lot of SC'ers have teenage kids.

I am sure they do chores around the house and they may or may not get paid "allowance" for doing it.

I found this on the computer. A father in the U.S., who works in IT, fixed his daughters computer for her and in the process found a posting on her Facebook (which she thought she had hidden) where she complains about all the "stuff she has to do around the house and doesn't get paid for it" and it went on and on... the language is not that nice either.

So what did this father do? Well since he says he had already grounded her for posting stuff on Facebook etc. He recorded a video, that is now on You Tube, as well as in this article.....

Are you ready for this?? At the end of the video, he shows his .45 revolver (Yep they pack heat in the good old US of A) and put 8 rounds into his daughters laptop!!!!

Now I don't know what to say about this. I mean I do not have a teenager around the house... I have a 39 year old son, who does pay me rent and does what he can around the house when he can. Yes he did more before his accident, but he does what he can now after his accident.

I am not condoning what he did... but I guess it goes to show that people should be careful what they put on Facebook!

Here is the link to the story and video:

http://ca.shine.yahoo.com/dad-shoots...book-post.html

(Note: Video does contain language that may offend some, viewer discretion is advised)

I have to say I love that video. Maybe the daughter will finally learn the value of things and to respect her parents. I'm sure there are more issues then just the final post on facebook, it sounded like they had multiple problems with her.

He clearly felt he had to make a bold statement to get her attention. I hope it worked!

I laughed so much.
I wish he were my dad.
He cares so much for his daughter, he won`t let her become something that will be unhelpful to society when she is older.

What a great payback-posting his video on his daughter`s Facebook page.
Holla.

Loved his cowboy cap, ciggy dangling from one hand, his 0.45 gun and his honesty.

I think this video has gone viral on YouTube.

YouTube is about 16 million hits for Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen

You can go to his facebook page as it is open to everyone and he has follow up comments.

Personally I have access to my kids' facebook page and emails and sometimes they put things on there about myself but I treat it a little differently. They know I check but they also know that I understand that it is a place to vent to their friends. Most teens are at the dramatic hormonal exaggeration stage and need a safe place to vent. They know that I go there but do not judge...I may not like what is being said about an argument we may have had however I don't get angry about it and a couple days down the road I can get a non combative conversation going about the post.

I saw that yesterday, and thought "good for him". Yes, I totally get being a hormonal teenager, and the tendency to exaggerate, and the need to vent. But...well, in my opinion, that's what diaries or journals are made for. Granted, most teens today think of Facebook as a type of diary or journal, but like I said, it seems that they already had issues with something similar before, so she should have known better. And, the things that she said...well if my son or daughter ever talked about me like that on Facebook for all their friends to see, I would have trouble staying calm and not being very hurt or embarrassed.

A lot of people were saying that what he did was no better then what his daughter did, because he just humiliated and embarrassed her like she did to him. This is true, but (and this is just my opinion) I think that there are times to take the higher road and times where a taste of their own medicine (so to speak) is the best thing for them...

Any ways, like I said, that is just my opinion. I have to run as my 4 year old just knocked my speaker off my computer and broke my Ipod screen :((

I know I'm going to be a minority voice but I think the daugher shouldn't be blamed for this. The father took it out in the public arena.

Ever wonder how you'd feel if your diary as a teen had been published?


I had mine read out by my sister to her friends....sh!t I was furious. I had all my secrets in there. And now the whole world knew how I felt.....

She was silly by not making her comments totally private. Her father accessed her posts though the family dog's account. Her posts had been hidden from family and people they knew from church.

He then feels the need to publicise her thoughts and appears to be so insecure in his parenting that he mentions, in both the video and the response to it, that he wants to "correct" what his daughter's friends think of him. Like they care! He`s justifed that the daughter has a valid reason to be worried about him.

He justifies his response by stating, more than once, that other kids need to see it's not "cool" to be "rebellious" like his daughter. Because, you know, there's only one standard of behavior in the world, and it's his and their parents should apishly follow his rules for their children and the rest of us should too ....

and the whole "paying for the bullets " strike me as the whole abuser "Look what you made me do!"

The gun part scares me, what a redneck.

Having a son who was publically humiliated by a teacher and it took years to recover I disagree with him doing this and I would not be surprised if the daughter ends up killing herself.

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Originally Posted by vibrantflame

Granted, most teens today think of Facebook as a type of diary or journal, but like I said, it seems that they already had issues with something similar before, so she should have known better. And, the things that she said...well if my son or daughter ever talked about me like that on Facebook for all their friends to see, I would have trouble staying calm and not being very hurt or embarrassed.

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ever wanted or had your diary...your privatish thoughts broadcast to the world??? That's what he did. And is bragging about it...he doesn't only want to humiliate his daughter but he's actively bragging about how her friends, in RL and FB have him pegged wrong. Now they and us have seen he's a jerk..

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A lot of people were saying that what he did was no better then what his daughter did, because he just humiliated and embarrassed her like she did to him. This is true, but (and this is just my opinion) I think that there are times to take the higher road and times where a taste of their own medicine (so to speak) is the best thing for them...
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He did worse....her thoughts were sent only to those on her private list, his have been broadcast to every-one.On FB and across the internet. Okay she had some 450-ish friends but those who knew him as family or church groups were excluded so she had tried to keep it as private as she thought she could.

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“Why did you reprimand her over a public medium like Facebook” my answer is this: Because that’s how I was raised. If I did something embarrassing to my parents in public (such as a grocery store) I got my tail tore up right there in front of God and everyone, right there in the store. I put the reprisal in exactly the same medium she did, in the exact same manner.

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He didn't...he made it world-wide..she was far more circumspect. The whole "that's how my parent's did it" sits very badly with me. I certainly wouldn't be washing my dirty laundry for the whole of the connected world to pick over the small points from now until the end of this era.

How sad. I think the father's idea of punishment in this case is abusive and an extreme exaggeration . I actually fear for the daughter, both mentally and physically :frown:. Where was he when "two wrongs don't make a right" was taught? What good has the daughter learned from his childish, tantruming behavior?

If you read his facebook page he was investigated by the police as well as the child protection services. He states that the police thought what he did was great. Child protective services are having him take anger management counselling.

I think this father is a complete nutbar...i suspect there is more to the story then we heard. all teens vent about their parents....i think its horrible that he humiliated her like that...i think it was stupid that he shot her computer.....respect needs to be earned...and what he did is not respectable!!!!

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Originally Posted by Patty Smyth

... I would not be surprised if the daughter ends up killing herself.

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That was one of the first things I thought of :frown:. How different is his behavior from extreme bullying?

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Originally Posted by jjwbuster

You can go to his facebook page as it is open to everyone and he has follow up comments.

Personally I have access to my kids' facebook page and emails and sometimes they put things on there about myself but I treat it a little differently. They know I check but they also know that I understand that it is a place to vent to their friends. Most teens are at the dramatic hormonal exaggeration stage and need a safe place to vent. They know that I go there but do not judge...I may not like what is being said about an argument we may have had however I don't get angry about it and a couple days down the road I can get a non combative conversation going about the post.

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Exactly...I had to cull a lot of DD1's friends following a "picture please " request which when DD1 refused became a " well just your breasts then" which was when she came to see me and I ended up restricting her access ..

The "girl" who wanted pictures was very aggresive as to how "her parents" could track me down and kill me while I was reporting the posts to FB help-desk..

DD1 still has a safe place to vent and I check there every few days. If and when she has a problem with us, we talk. we may not get to a mutual acceptable end agreement but I've yet to destory her belongings..

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Originally Posted by jjwbuster

If you read his facebook page he was investigated by the police as well as the child protection services. He states that the police thought what he did was great. Child protective services are having him take anger management counselling.

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the cops are nuts too IMO ....thanks god for cps and anger management

being a parent really is a JOB...there is no how to book and you just do the best you can....love and understanding is or should be at the top of the list...i'm not getting loving vibes from this situation