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So my four year asked this morning how babies get into mama belly :D I told her God puts them there. To which she replied: how? I gave her the old when mama and daddy really love each other they pray for a baby and God puts one there. She asked how? I asked her if she wants a treat ;) She said yes. Any better answers for next time. Not sure about the birds and bees for a four year old. :shock:
It's been so long, I can't remember what I said to the children! However, there are books you can buy or borrow that address this issue and it is specific to certain ages. Good luck!
Thanks Marstec :)
I'm dreading the talk when DS gets older...he's only 3, but I know it's coming... I already told DH it's his job! haha
Just tell her. You can be very simplistic. My 4.5 yo know how babies are made and born. He knows about natural birth and about c-sections...(my boys were c-sections and my niece was natural...he wanted to know where auntys scar was) At this age, it doesn't freak them out. I told him that daddys have sperm and that mommys have eggs and that they have to come together to make a baby. He ask how? I told him with a penis and a vagina. He said "okay" and was happy. Grandma might not have been happy...but thats okay with me. :lolsign: I believe you don't need to make a big deal out of it. Its a fact of life...kinda like when they ask where poop comes from. :D
ITA with RSAS on this one.. most kiddies that age are just curious.. its just like to them 'how the heck did that get there' kinda deal.. sort of along the same lines of how did the grass get green and the sky blue.. most of them won't run screaming with their fingers in their ears yelling 'ewww' once you tell them..as RSAS has said they're more likely just going to go.. ok and walk away..
but be honest and clear.. use real words and keep it simple. once they are older though be prepared.. they might wanna little more info. but still be honest and tell em. i'd rather my kids here about it all from us then there friends at school and other avenues etc. as long as you keep it honest and you tell them the facts.. they will always hopefully come to you and never be afraid to ask questions.. VERY important once they become teenagers.
RSAS and MrsSunshine thank you for your insight. Simple honesty had always been my plan but I expected the questions in a few years not at four. I will wait till she brings it up again I think I feel more prepared now. I also heard of a book called "It's not the stork" has anyone had any experience reading it to their children?
Exactly. DD1(14) studied sex-ed a few weesk ago in science and was surprised how few of her peers knew how things worked vis-a-vis with sex. The practical part was putting a condom on a banana....I now know the answer to "do you know how hard it is to put a condom on a banana?" should it become a subject of conversation with her younger sibs....Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSunshine
We just answered all the kid's questions when they came up. Using the correct words and simple explanations. If they get the correct info from you, they won't be lead into bad choices when under peer pressure.
I've always kept it simple with real terms. My favorite book is called It's Not the Stork ( http://www.chapters.indigo.ca/books/...rk&ikwsec=Home ) It's actually a series of 3 books designed for different age groups. We have all 3 and I love them. They are accurate and factual but fun. The It's Not the Stork book talks about the differences between boys and girls, different types of families (my daughter wanted to have a step parent after reading the book! LOL), twins, ect.... But it also discuss sperm and egg with cute pictures. It's an excellent series of books.
I recently had to explain Viagra and tampons to my 10yr old son. Now that was an awkward discussion (the tampon one ended in an "eeeww gross" from my son!)!!
I remember watching a cartoon when I was four or five that was all about where babies came from. My mom made us watch it and then answered any questions we had after. The embarrassing thing is she showed it when I had a bunch of friends over too. Yikes!
i have 2 boys and i dont even remember the birds and bees convo i had with my mom. my 5 year old started asking where babies come from when he was 2 and i was preggie with my youngest and he was happy with babies come from mommies tummy. but recently he asked me how the babies get into mommies tummy and when i said from daddy, he asked how it got from daddy to mommy and i was so embarrassed i told him id tell him when he got a little older. i really dont know what to say. i am really unprepared for just how curious little boys are! i once saw my 2 year old inspecting my bathing suit looking for clues, lol.
My daughter is four next month and I have talked to her about sex and making babies and I used actual language. I want my girls to know proper names, etc because (personally) I want them to be less likely to be victimized by a predator. I feel that if children are well informed then they are less at risk...just my opinion.
my daughter (7) got a book about human anatomy and she knows all about growth and everything but i cant bring myself to tell her about actual sex and what it entails. she knows about penis' and stuff because she has a younger brother and has seen it, but i ended up telling her that the doctor will take stuff out of daddy and put it into mom's uterus and it grows into a baby. she seemed satisfied with that
its not a total lie i suppose, i mean they do those things. but its not the full truth
I have to admit, I had the same question from my 4 year old and I used a similar answer, saying that when the people are married and love each other, God gives them a baby.
I'm hoping this question does not arrise again soon because I still dont have a different answer.