would it be odd if i.....

[idonovan]

gah sorry for the typing im laying down with laptop

[DaveP]

gah sorry for the typing im laying down with laptop

Not a problem.

Can I ask how old you and your husband are and how long you've been together?

Trust between husband and wife builds with time. (even if newlyweds say they trust each other completely, it may not be entirely true. Younger folk often have insecurities. Sometimes justified, sometimes not.)

Not that older people can't make the same mistakes, of course.

Anyway, I think if you want a friendship with this young man, in person is better, and along with your husband is best.

[DaveP]

double post

[Kalmel]

Nothing wrong in wanting to make friends.. alot of us feel the same way you do. I also have good friends but with everything going on like..life.. i dont get to see them that enough but do chat alot over the phone or if i want to see if they got new wrinkles i use skype..lol! Like dave mentioned, better to meet him in person and see how that goes first.

[idonovan]

double post

we are both 28 so ya still young together 4 years married 2. But even so we always have trusted each other and never given a reason not too. We never get jelouse no real insecurities with us. I have some about myslef like being shy and not thinking im good enough sort of thing but thats not to do with him.

[Priceisright]

This thread is turning into a teenybopper thread...i'm out!

[Lynn49]

This thread is turning into a teenybopper thread...i'm out!

Whoa! THAT'S harsh! Do you only speak with people your own age?!
I'm 62 and enjoy talking to people of all ages...I believe everyone has something important to share and I
don't discriminate by age.....Perhaps being "out" is a good idea here....

[erin9mmm]

...WHould it be odd to add somone on fb without really talking in real life first?

If I were him (or his wife) I would be questioning your motives. I think talking to him in person while visiting your mom would be more appropriate.

[Kalmel]

This thread is turning into a teenybopper thread...i'm out!

Sad how some people need to say something totally mean just because they have 30 seconds to waste. What gets me even more ticked about this useless comment is that, you have this girl, that is shy and doesnt seem to have much friends, and trying to share something that many can relate, and you..well you just manage to mess it up in less than 30 seconds...nice..

[saveadollardiva]

I agree, that you should talk to him when you see him with your mom. Maybe bring your DH by when you go to visit your mom and than maybe have him talk to this man you know through your mom. You never know your DH might like him and they might get along as well.

[hollyquaiscer]

I'm not really shy, so it's hard to understand that part, but, if I were you just go over to him the next time your are visiting your mom and say hi. It will be easy to strike up a conversation as you can talk about the reason you are there in the first place, and thats to visit with your mom. Take it from there. If you get the feeling that he may be someone that you and your dh would like to get to know, bring along your dh on following visits, and who knows, maybe the 3 of you can strike up a great friendship. We meet people in the oddest of places. My bf is someone I met when we were selling our house, she and her dh bought it over 30 years ago.

I have to agree with the others as far as fb is concerned. I would think that one of the reasons so many people have difficulty with friendships these days is because almost everything we do is virtual. We don't have to really speak to people in the "Real World" if we don't want to.

You seem like a very nice person, and I bet if you strike up a conversation in person, you may even surprise yourself. Don't think about it and stress about what you will say, just go for it and let if happen naturally. You can do it girl!

[saveadollardiva]

Well in defence of priceisright he is intitled to his thoughts and views. I think what he is trying to say is the answers here are pretty much the same.

[idonovan]

you guys are awsome thanks for the advise. hubby dont wanna go visit he dont like it there, but i told him hes cool with it.

[Kalmel]

Well in defence of priceisright he is intitled to his thoughts and views. I think what he is trying to say is the answers here are pretty much the same.

Your actually defending this comment by .. "intitled to his thoughts and views" ...really? gotta admit, i didnt see that one coming..lol...

[Lynn49]

Defending someone is fine....however, his using the word "teenybopper" is disrespectful to the OP as well as those of us who were having a civilized conversation. He could well remember the phrase:
If you can't say anything nice, please keep your opinion to yourself.
He could have just slipped himself out of the thread without a disparaging remark!