Toddler problems: biting, not listening, tantrums = tired mommy
Hello moms out there,
I hope some of you might be able to help or offer some advice. My 27 month old son has bitten 2 kids at his daycare on Wednesday and another one yesterday, because he wanted a toy from them and they wouldn't give it to him. He's been a different kid for the past few days. Tantrums, not listening, frustrated easily. He even bit DH's finger last night when his hand came close to his mouth. He bit really hard and left marks. I can't imagine how painful it must have been for the kids at the daycare. He bits when he's frustrated or having temper tantrums, like at the supermarket he wanted to get out of the trolley and I said no, he threw a tantrum and bit the trolley. He's been putting his fingers in his mouth, has had low appetite.
I'm wondering if he's teething. I couldn't see tooth coming out but I guess the pain is there some time before the tooth cuts through? or is this just a way to show his frustration and is turning aggressive?
He doesn't listen either and it's hard to get attention from him. I come to his height and look at him in the eyes, he would just look away or laugh. Getting a "please" is mission impossible. Time-out works but most of the time doesn't. He is very strong-willed. Was born like that. At the hospital he was the loudest of them all. Would cry and hold his breath until he turns red.
He is also bright for his age. Recognises all the alphabets and numbers (he obsessed with these), shapes, colours, counts to 20 in 2 langues, builds gigantic towers with his legos, aligns every car/trains he can find (20 of them) in size, colours and all facing the same directions, he said the number 6 then turned it upside down and said 9, these are just a few examples. We always have to think ahead of him (like if he says he wants yoghurt, then we open the fridge, he would grab something else what we would not usually give him and knows he's not allowed. So before we open the fridge, we have to keep him occupied with something else.) DH and I are tired mentally and physically. I'm getting anxious because when I research on the internet, I come across terms like Asperger and Autism and it's freaking me out. Some people have suggested that he might be gifted, so constantly needing new things to stimulate him or he'll get bored and misbehave.
He doesn't sleep well, never have. I can count on one hand the number of times he slept through the night since he was a baby. He had reflux as a baby. Teething stage is difficult. He has eczema (which is getting better now), and nightmares (he oftens scream and cry in his sleep). He also counts/sings/talks in his sleep.
He was recently tested level 5 for peanut allergy after we had to take him to the ER. His eyes were swollen and left eye was completed shut. We've had to make adjustements, read labels, carry epipen etc.
We don't even yell at home or hit or let him watch too much TV. We spend a lot of time with him and give him all the attention he needs. He's affectionate, likes to give hugs and kisses. He likes daycare, so it's not like he's miserable there.
Anyone with a similar toddler?