I'm pissed at my inconsiderate best friend

[tjthemanto]

She is just taking you for granted and is just assuming that everytime you get tickets, she will be invited no matter what.

She is acting as if she is doing you a favour by showing up , when its the other way around, you are doing her a favour by giving her free tickets.

If someone gives me something for free, I am extremely grateful to them and can't thank them enough.

She wants to have it both ways, she wants to attend the movie and at the same time not attend the movie if something better comes around. She is the Maybe type, next time tell her you want a Yes or a No answer and that either way you don't mind, but you don't want a Maybe or but answer

Would she be doing the same thing if she had actually paid for the movie, I don't think so .

Next time give the tkts to me : , if she doesn't come , as I am always late and never manage to get theses free advnance tkts

[tjthemanto]

I also have some friends like that.

whenever we plan a get together or a meeting or something, till the last minute you don't know know if they are actually going to show up or not.

The amount of times you have to remind them , call them up , reschedule due to their cancellation, change the venue for their convenience etc etc is ridiculous.

Now I have taken a firm stand , just once I tell them When and Where and thats it. No reminders, no calling them again and again and no such nonsense.

If they show up they will be noticed and treated with respect , but if they don't show up they won't be missed, but the show will go on and I will have a good time irrespective of whether they come or not

Eventually they get the message, that they are not as important as they think they are and no one is rolling the red carpet waiting for them, their presence or absence will not diminish the event in any way

[Ciel]

In summary, enjoy your own free passes. Hugs if you are generous enough to do a RAOK to strangers more keen on the passes than you!
Good to read posters comment on how much notice/reminder to give to friends on such opportunities. Like I heard someone say about library books not returned b their due dates: "They are adults and need to realize that they had a set period to use the books and return them. Tell them that fines apply on late returns." (related to a discussion of what to do with books that did not come in during a fine amnesty period)

[Junkster]

Half of the free advance screening passes I get off Facebook and been fortunate to be online when the tickets became available. The other half of the time is when I enter email contests. So try the email contests if you are unable to be on Facebook in time to try for free passes. You'll be surprised at how often you might win. Plus remember that those tickets you win are still not guaranteed seats but that it is based on first come first serve till all tickets run out. So plan to arrive early; especially if you want good seats.
One time I made a deal with an elderly couple that I would give up my friends seats (my BF in mentioned here) to them if they don't arrive 15 minutes before the show. They had seats down below and to the right. I had perfect seats middle high and center. My friends showed with a couple minutes to me giving their seats to the elderly couple. I even informed her that I almost gave her seat away... I don't think she believed that I would but I did make a promise to the elder couple. And I've been saving those seats for over half an hour.
It is very annoying trying to save seats when you got many people eyeing the seats. Some people can be quite rude and try and take the seats despite them being reserved with coats on them.

[barbs]

Wow you'd give her up to an hour? That's so generous. I'd say night before or she's toast. I have a "friend" right now who is doing this to me. Keeps asking me when I'm available to get together, then disappears and 3 weeks later asks again. I sent her a message telling her that I'd love to see her, but she keeps doing this (and I spelled out the behaviour). Now she's ignoring me and it's probably for the best. Some people can't handle getting called out on their crap

mmm......I meant that if she had already accepted the invite to see the movie, I'd want a confirmation that she is actually showing up, on the day of the movie, within an hour of showtime.