@Lyssia510 on that cash brag bridal shower, if you're a nervy type person, you may want to reply with "sorry, I'd love to, but money is tight right now!" See if they get the message :P.
I had a surprise shower myself...though I figured out the surprise because I had to go to SIL's house and my parents were driving me there and she lives about an hour away...my mom and SIL are not besties so I knew something was up when they told me to block off my Saturday. LOL. It was really lovely but if you guys ever organize a surprise one, try to make it more of a surprise haha