Originally Posted by
torontogal12
My friend of 15+ years has been ignoring people in our friend group. I used to message her often, only to get ignored, so I personally am not going to pull out my hair anymore trying to get answers from her. I think 6 months is enough one-sided effort and might try again later, but I'm tired of it right now.
She makes an appearance at an event to announce that she is 4 months pregnant and moving away. She's never wanted children but she seems happy so that's good I guess.
At the latest event, she ran off after 2 hours, to be with her boyfriend (who she lives with and sees every day, because he seems to demand 100% of her time). He hates one of her friends for a stupid reason, so he never comes to outings. If the two of them ever show up together, they sit in a corner and ignore everyone. Like they did at a wedding. They left around 8:30 p.m. too so nobody got to talk to them.
Anyway, we would like to see her again before she leaves but she's not having it. After ignoring my messages again, I got other friends to bombard her and ask what time is good, but she responds that she is "too busy." Her sister says it's not true. I gave her 3 suggestions for days to meet and she just said no and didn't offer an alternative.
That's pretty clear that she doesn't want to see anyone, right? Yet everyone keeps saying we need to rent cars to drive up to visit her at her new house. She wants nothing to do with us and yet for some reason people still want to chase after her.
What I don't get: when I was unemployed, and needed a friend, nobody bothered to ask me how I was doing. Yet she wants nothing to do with anyone and people can't stop chasing her. What is it about human beings?