Originally Posted by
oscarandme
I agree with Snow in Summer!! I started to type the same topic last night about this very subject and did not think this week was a good week for me to handle the comments and possible backlash . I have also been reading from other members the same and I admit I am sensitive and the I also was a lurker for for a few years and I believe the first night I was approved to SC, to have a voice I replied to a thread and someone just want off on me and I was in tears (ugly cry tears) and could not believe that I signed up to this type of atmosphere, that was not what I had been reading. Thankfully Jezebel and a few other members friended me and calmed me down and I hung in there and agree that there and so thankful I did. There are ways of saying things and sometimes. I often notice it is the same members that come out kicking and screaming and not to be forgotten is that we are here all still learning and by the comments and explanations help us to do so, that is how we learn. If you type it and read it back to yourself and think as an objective reader -would think be harsh then just highlight and delete and pass thread by.
We all have enough in our daily lives to deal with and for me the forum has helped our home so much, helped somewhat my typing skills, my expressing myself, thinking things through, analitical skills, tips, tricks, making friends, and I admit mis-using coupons sometimes because I am terrible sometimes are the fine print or like the other day posting the cheap oils thread and getting some flack for size and stuff.
Trying to help and understand some corrections needed to be made but a few more nouns and verbs in the replies would have been appreciated. It is discouraging from posting things because then I am uncertain about all the information I sharedd being correct an then being responsible for every reply on that thread and sometimes I would rather just keep it to myself as much as I want to share . Yes I am sensitive and giving and all that muchy stuff but I was under the impression that the forum was a giving, loving hand-holding place to learn from people of the same minds and are here to help one another. I have grown-up a little since January hence OP thread and I have seen a decline in postings and it saddens me because those are successes from fellow members, learning lessons, team encouragement and sincere replies of information that you might not learn from but others might. I know a few times I have typed a few things and deleted them and a few times I left it and regreted it but felt like it had to be said. So I understand but there is a way to write things.
I wonder what all of a sudden to the members think have changed. I used to just look at the home page when I was a lurker so I don't know what it was before January.
Thank you for raising this issue Snow in Summer. It needed to be done.