I hope she doesn't take advantage of him.... rant
I have an older sister who lives in another Province. She has a decent job but has credit card debt and other debts likely in the $50,000 plus range. If you go out to eat, and your footing the bill, she orders a appetizer, meal, drinks an dessert every time. She only wants to eat at fancy restaurants when your paying and doesn't like chain restaurants. If your out shopping, she sees an item she likes and picks it up, expects you will pay for it. If you ask her "Are you buying that?" Her response "No you are".
You may not hear from her for weeks, but then out of the blue phones desperate for money to pay for gas, vet bills for her dogs etc.
She wanted to head to the USA to attend an event for 1 week and hoped family would help pay for her gas, hotel, food,and entertainment costs!
She has 'borrowed" over $30,000 from my parents over the past 6 years and takes advantage. She needed my dad's credit card to pay for one of the dog's surgery. He gave it to her over the phone. There were also other charges on his statement which she 'failed' to tell him or ask his permission to use it. An overdue cellphone bill twice for $70.00 plus. A few vet bills. When he asked her about it she came up with some excuse as to why she didn't mention it. Family members told them time to cut her off and change his credit card.They kept all the amounts (bank deposit, credit card statements) and wrote her a letter saying their retirement savings are dwindling and they cannot afford to keep handing out money. They also included the exact amount they have given her. She was livid and yelled at them over the phone.
She rarely calls since being cut off.
She feels she is entitled to 'fancy and frivolous things'
She has 3 dogs, 3 cats and 2 horses which she can barely afford to care for (vet bills). She is good to her animals, it's just the cost that she can't afford
Since her cut off, she has met a guy who has a wonderful job. They have been together for about a year now ,recently he bought a house and they live together. She told me she wants fancy things for the house and plans on taking him shopping. She is using her income to pay down her debt and he pays her bills (cell phone etc) I doubt he knows about the money she has taken from my parents because he seems like a nice and honest guy. The type that would likely tell her to pay them back. I met him once and I could see her manipulating him in a nice way to get things. I could never do this to anyone.
She spoke to me recently and mentioned she bought 4 more purebred dogs but doesn't plan on breeding them. I know they are adults and it's none of my business.... She's using her income to pay down debt, her bf is footing the bills and she goes out and buys 4 more purebreds. In other words more money for him to put out for care and costs. She said "He seemed okay with it' with a bit of hesitation in her voice.
I hate to call my sister a mooch.... it bothers me when others take advantage.
It's not just family... she has borrowed small amounts from friends etc and not paid them back.
I borrowed money once in the past from someone but made it a priority to pay them back immediately. It's not just family... she has borrowed small amounts from friends and never paid them back.
I just hope she doesn't take advantage of her bf.
Rant over.
