ARMY AND SLAMMIE's Crazy Christmas Advent Package Train

[HeatherWake]

I was was told by my aunt (the crisis worker) to pull tough love and say "get your ass home or your sh*t will be packed up and waiting on the front step for you". Tomm. will be 3 weeks since we heard or even seen her!!!!! When I ask she cant even give me a straight answer as to why she doesnt want to talk or come home. I really reaching my breaking point and feeling more and more like I have to go to the doc and get on some anti-depressants again (I have dealt with depression in the past, and its not a fun thing!)

Pooh...HUGS. This is going to seem like heartless advice, but its your call to take it or leave it. As you know from our private talks, I was a piece of sh*t to MY parents (due to them treating me poorly), and Ive been on the other side with my son being an a&$hole to me and his sisters. I agree with your aunt. Clearly your DD is staying put. Fine. My experience is that 16 year old girls can (and will) be little biatches to their moms. Try not to take it personally. Either she will come home when she is ready or she won't. How long do you think this "other family" is going to put up with her?? Probably not forever. You have NOT lost her. The day she was born, you knew that eventually she would be moving out. This is obviously sooner than anticipated, but it WAS going to happen. Let her learn this lesson that life isn't always fun and roses, and she will appreciate you. Give her space. Stamping and crying and stressing yourself out is doing NOTHING to sway her back into your house. Its accomplishing nothing but making your DD think you are a mean, crazy witch....it will cause stress on your younger son having him see mom and dad so upset all the time, and he will come to blame his sister....its already affecting your health! Its hard, an seems impossible, but just breathe and let her go. In all likelihood, she WILL return, and THEN you can have the conversation about rules, respect etc. In the meantime, turn it around on her, be civil, but not accomodating, dont give her money, facebook her a deadline to come get her stuff, and give her a shot of reality, maybe just knowing that you arent being a crazy person about it, recognizing her need for independence, will soften her stubbornness just a little. And know that we are here for venting to!!

[HeatherWake]

oh, and as for the extended family/dinner....screw them~ Its none of their business!! Chances are, they went through their OWN problems with their teenagers, but time will have softened their memories and they will most likely see their past struggles with rose coloured glasses, and be judgey on you. DOnt let them. Every kid/family/teen/circumstance is different. What was right for them, may not be right for you...but either way, its YOUR choice, and they would do best to not be involved.

[dlee]

Buddy hints:

You live more than one province away from me.
You have a child(ren)

not me! another one down!

I just LOLLED really hard !!!

So as you can see its 4:30 am ... Went to bed at midnight and can't sleep whatsoever ... Not even one minute ... At 2 I decided to take my a*$ to the couch cause DF was bothering me .. Still nothing . His snoring and clonking teeth and whatnot don't bother me if I'm sleeping but if I have insomnia ... God help me ..

Ladies PLEASE, send some falling asleep tricks my way !!!

do you drink tea? there's some good sleepy teas...david's tea has one called "mother's little helper" which is quite good and is made specifically for mom's who need some sleep.
also, I have a light lavender spray that you can put on your sheets and pillow case and it helps.

Pooh...HUGS. This is going to seem like heartless advice, but its your call to take it or leave it. As you know from our private talks, I was a piece of sh*t to MY parents (due to them treating me poorly), and Ive been on the other side with my son being an a&$hole to me and his sisters. I agree with your aunt. Clearly your DD is staying put. Fine. My experience is that 16 year old girls can (and will) be little biatches to their moms. Try not to take it personally. Either she will come home when she is ready or she won't. How long do you think this "other family" is going to put up with her?? Probably not forever. You have NOT lost her. The day she was born, you knew that eventually she would be moving out. This is obviously sooner than anticipated, but it WAS going to happen. Let her learn this lesson that life isn't always fun and roses, and she will appreciate you. Give her space. Stamping and crying and stressing yourself out is doing NOTHING to sway her back into your house. Its accomplishing nothing but making your DD think you are a mean, crazy witch....it will cause stress on your younger son having him see mom and dad so upset all the time, and he will come to blame his sister....its already affecting your health! Its hard, an seems impossible, but just breathe and let her go. In all likelihood, she WILL return, and THEN you can have the conversation about rules, respect etc. In the meantime, turn it around on her, be civil, but not accomodating, dont give her money, facebook her a deadline to come get her stuff, and give her a shot of reality, maybe just knowing that you arent being a crazy person about it, recognizing her need for independence, will soften her stubbornness just a little. And know that we are here for venting to!!

heather, I really like how you shoot from the hip and say what you think.

I do agree though, scbpooh, you need to take care of your health! you're no good to anyone sick!

[shkyle]

I am going! But unfortunately in a different state. Amazing deals! Definately worth the trip! Best if you go down on the Thursday around dinnertime!

I noticed that that sales started on Thursday. Now I guess hubby will have to take Thursday and Friday off work.

[scbpooh]

Thanks for the advise guys and yes Heather, our private talks have really helped me too!

In the mean time, a few things...

Received a postcard today in the mail verifying the BIG redemption this year! Posted pics here: http://forum.smartcanucks.ca/372145-...firmed-canada/

AND....

Guess who Wendyjane's buddy was????? IT WAS ME!!!!!! Just received a nice bog red box from the mailman!!!! Havent opened it yet!

[HeatherWake]

heather, I really like how you shoot from the hip and say what you think.

Thanks DLEE! I don't sugar coat things. I like to be tactful, but I never lie. I have led a very full life, and really HAVE "been-there, done-that"....so I seem to have an opinion/advice/story for every situation! LMAO!! Others think I have "verbal diarrhea"!

[HeatherWake]

yes Heather, our private talks have really helped me too!
Guess who Wendyjane's buddy was????? IT WAS ME!!!!!! Just received a nice bog red box from the mailman!!!! Havent opened it yet!

And there is the silver lining to one of your grey clouds!! You're the first to get their package! I bet seeing all those cheerfully wrapped packages brightened your day a bit!! WTG WendyJane! You probably couldnt have planned that delivery timing any better!!

[Jody22002]

Wrapping up my presents this afternoon because I finally have a day off.

So I got a hair cut this morning and I went short. My hair wasn't that long but it was shoulder length. It grows super fast and is thick so it was driving me nuts. I was second guessing my decision after I got it done and feeling all insecure about it and then I get in the car and my H looks at it and just makes a face. Now I am REALLY feeling bad about it.


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[HeatherWake]

So I got a hair cut this morning and I went short.

PICTURES! PICTURES! PICTURES!! I have always had super long hair, but I secretly LOVE some of the cute, short cuts that I see. Sooo cute, and probably a lot less maintenance. Youve got bigger balls than me, Jody! LETS SEE!! (your haircut, NOT your balls!)

[lizardqueen78]

Pooh...HUGS. This is going to seem like heartless advice, but its your call to take it or leave it. As you know from our private talks, I was a piece of sh*t to MY parents (due to them treating me poorly), and Ive been on the other side with my son being an a&$hole to me and his sisters. I agree with your aunt. Clearly your DD is staying put. Fine. My experience is that 16 year old girls can (and will) be little biatches to their moms. Try not to take it personally. Either she will come home when she is ready or she won't. How long do you think this "other family" is going to put up with her?? Probably not forever. You have NOT lost her. The day she was born, you knew that eventually she would be moving out. This is obviously sooner than anticipated, but it WAS going to happen. Let her learn this lesson that life isn't always fun and roses, and she will appreciate you. Give her space. Stamping and crying and stressing yourself out is doing NOTHING to sway her back into your house. Its accomplishing nothing but making your DD think you are a mean, crazy witch....it will cause stress on your younger son having him see mom and dad so upset all the time, and he will come to blame his sister....its already affecting your health! Its hard, an seems impossible, but just breathe and let her go. In all likelihood, she WILL return, and THEN you can have the conversation about rules, respect etc. In the meantime, turn it around on her, be civil, but not accomodating, dont give her money, facebook her a deadline to come get her stuff, and give her a shot of reality, maybe just knowing that you arent being a crazy person about it, recognizing her need for independence, will soften her stubbornness just a little. And know that we are here for venting to!!

I am that 16 year old girl!!! My mom did the tough love thing and packed up a bunch of my stuff, told me if I wanted it to come and get it!

at the time I thought my mom was THE biggest biatch ever, but now our relationship is great!

I did end up going back, a long while later...but I still went back!

Not to toot my own horn, but I think I turned out pretty darn good lol


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[lizardqueen78]

PICTURES! PICTURES! PICTURES!! I have always had super long hair, but I secretly LOVE some of the cute, short cuts that I see. Sooo cute, and probably a lot less maintenance. Youve got bigger balls than me, Jody! LETS SEE!! (your haircut, NOT your balls!)

Hey! What if some of us want to see balls?!?! Ha ha!

I do want to see new hair though! I'm in need of a hair style change but I am far too lazy to do anything in the mornings!


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[scbpooh]

Her is all my gifts. Forgot to take a pre pic of the box when it arrived. DD had to hold some up in the back so thats why he had to get in the pic Also got a very nice Christmas card with some awesome coupons in it!

[tasha313]

Here's my spoiler !!!! Missing #24 and #25 only !

[Norma Mackay-Rempel]

Good morning!! Im at work, doing front desk today at my dental office. Its a new office, and no dentist working today so its just me. That means I can be online alllll day!! (I brought my macbook and am using my iphone as a hotspot...Im paranoid about using company internet/computers...big brother IS watching!!)
Soooooo what is everyone doing today?? I checked Canada Post and my buddys package has arrived in her province, but delivery date still says friday.
I was at Sobeys yesterday and found single packs of Gillette Fusion ProGlide disposable mens razors for $2.99. I used the $3 off coupons and got 30 of them for a grand total of $101.36 but only paid the taxes of $11.36. Also SDM has Healthy Choice steamers for $1.99. Used 6x$2 coupons and 6 BOGOS and walked out with 12 for $0. ALSO at SDM...Vaseline hand creams on for $2.99, all different varieties. I wash my hands 25-30x a day, so get very dry skin. I used my last 5 $2 Vaseline coupons, combined with $3 Nivea coupons (used on $2 lip balms) gave me the overage to walk out only paying $1 for 5 lotions and 6 lip balms). It was an AWESOME couponing day!

That is awesome!

I use my laptop and my phone as a hotspot at work too! Canada Post's wifi is protected and I wouldn't dare try to use it anyway!

[HeatherWake]

Tasha, awesome wrapping! DD looks sweet, and so does Pooh DS! Were they betrothed to each other? I forget? It was a whirlwind of matchmaking activity! I dont even remember if I pawned off my 14yr old DD...I KNOW my 23 yr old son is still up for grabs for one very lucky girl! Shmee?? He's great with kids!! :D

BUDDY UPDATE: Your parcel is now scheduled for delivery in two days!!! Are you gonna be home on thursday?