ARMY AND SLAMMIE's Crazy Christmas Advent Package Train

[kellyanna_99]

Okay serious question for all...

This is Our first Christmas separated from DS's dad. I am having a very hard time with this split Christmas non sense. I promised his dad that he could have DS on Christmas Day around 10am. But that is not good enough for him, he wants him Christmas Eve into Christmas morning. It's very frustrating, to an extent I feel like I deserve Christmas morning. I am the one who cares for him and works to support him. I want to be able to enjoy that feeling of Christmas morning.

On the other hand I feel very selfish about t as well, DS gets to see his dad once a week. I mean yes his dad also really deserves Christmas morning with him... It's frustrating. I really don't like that it has to be this way but it is what it is. Makes me want to cry actually...

So my question is how has/does anyone else In This situation deal with this!!


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Separated for 4 years now, and it still is stinky. LIke Heather, I always seem to get the short end of the stick. I mean, it always seems to work out to his advantage. What has helped is that I choose not to make a deal of the 25th. I make a big stink out of the fact that because their parents live in two separate houses, Santa makes two trips for them. It takes the wind out of his sales, when I agree to what he wants for the most part for Christmas, because my ex always wants a fight with me. Also, I have sole custody, and he sees them EOW, if he utilizes it. So for the kids, I try to suck it up, so they can see him. Try to focus, on when you do have him, not so much the day. If it was me, let him have the day, and then do a second Christmas full out, before or after his time. It sucks, I get it. But, I've learned with my x, to pick my battles, because he will argue everything. We are currently heading back to court over a whole wop of BS that he initiated, because of this. Not sure if that helps. your little guy is 2 1/2, you have a long bit ahead, of dealing with the ex, and holidays are one thing I am willing to give on, as it is just the day, celebrate on another day . My kids think they are pretty special, because Santa comes twice!

[QUOTE=cowgirlmama04;5702492]Ok buddy, I have some questions for you

What would you consider the "perfect date" or your most memorable?

No sig. other right now, still recovering from the last one, so no dates for me right now!

What is your favorite music type and/or song?

I have a wide variety of taste, country, classic, light opera (speaking of, good idea - cd of Phatom or Les miserables sound track), celtic thunder, neil diamond (cannot believe I am admitting that!), gospel, contempory christian, dance, etc... as long as it's not vulgar, I'm good!

What is your most favorite Christmas treat?

Lindt or toberolne chocolates1

What is one Christmas tradition that you must do or have?

What don't we do...Pretty much all of it...tree, stockings, decorations, family, food, reindoor and santa in the house (did you know they poop magic chocolate hershey kisses (my parents started that, we still do it with the santa cookies, milk and carrots for the reindeer), letter from santa , church, awesome christmas movies...etc

If you could pick only one flower, what is your favorite?

I have two, can't pick...lilacs, and gerber daisies



[QUOTE=julesie-pie;5702503]Buddy question: does your tree have a theme? Or colour-theme?

No theme, other then christmas, and lots of it. My tree is basically, ornaments with a bit of tree showing through!

Hey Buddy, I have a question. Are you a pervert? Are you a prude? Are you a sexual person? Do you get offended at sexy humour? Let me know!

Not a prude, but I don't like sex jokes or things like that

[Jody22002]

12. Buddy, What are a few of your favorite colours?



I am artsy so I love colour! Red and turquoise top my list right now!



13. How do you feel about animal prints? Zebra stripes, leopard spots etc etc?



Love them.



14. What is your favorite # from 1 - 23 and what is your favorite day of the week?

Favourite number is 3 and best day of the week is Sunday.



15. What would you consider the perfect date?

I'll get back to you on that. We never go on dates.


16. What is your favorite music type and/or song? I love blues, jazz, indie, and oldies. Like some new stuff too. They only thing Odontoceti like is rap.



17.What is your most favorite Christmas treat?

Gingerbread.



18. What is one Christmas tradition that you must do or have?

Every Christmas Eve my kids get to open a gift. It is always pjs and a book. Pjs so that they are clean for Xmas morning pics and a book to keep them busy while I finish up all the last minute things. Even now, and they are 15, 17, and 18, they big as soon as they get up Christmas Eve morning and start bugging to open it

19. If you could pick only one flower, what is your favorite?

Orchid




20. Buddy question: does your tree have a theme? Or colour-theme?

We have a tree in every room so yes! The main one is burgundy and gold and all rustic and vintage ornaments. We have a pastel pink tree with all pink girly ornaments. A colourful tree with things from all the places we have traveled. A princess themed tree in my daughters room. A turquoise tree in other daughters room.



21. Are you a pervert? Are you a prude? Are you a sexual person? Do you get offended at sexy humour?


Not a prude. Not much offends me.



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[slambert]

I have a kid buddy question...what would be your kid/kids most wanted wish?

[scbpooh]

Will answer new questions tomm. Its been a VERY long day and I'm only on my phone right now

[Melissa13]

Ok buddy, I have some questions for you

What would you consider the "perfect date" or your most memorable?

I'm single but going to a hockey game is a perfect date for me

What is your favorite music type and/or song?

Top 40

What is your most favorite Christmas treat?

Nanaimo bars. I've been craving them since last year but I never seem to splurge and buy some.

What is one Christmas tradition that you must do or have?

I don't really have one but I have started collecting different advent calendars. I found a cute wooden one last year of tree and you put a little ornament on it each day.

If you could pick only one flower, what is your favorite?

Pink roses or carnations

Buddy question: does your tree have a theme? Or colour-theme?

My small tree is purple so I first had pink balls on it but now have switched to dark purple.

Hey Buddy, I have a question. Are you a pervert? Are you a prude? Are you a sexual person? Do you get offended at sexy humour? Let me know!

Not really a prude, I most likely won't be offend.

[KK7]

Kayla said her most wished is too hard to pick and would love a nice surprise

[Armygirl76]

I have a kid buddy question...what would be your kid/kids most wanted wish?

Mitchell-
Any small food GC for when he's traveling for indoor soccer subway is his favorite

Hailey
-anything lush especially bath stuff

[Armygirl76]

Please don't forget if you are on the kids advent train to answer those question also, they are in post 6

[HeatherWake]

I was afraid of that.
It is comforting when it's coming from another mom who has dealt with it herself! My parents weren't together when I grew up, but I never had to shuffle from house to house because he didn't want anything to do with me. Wasn't sure how this was supposed to work. I'm worried about it being hard on my son, he is only 2.5 years. But kids do adapt...

Exactly SHMEE, your DS will totally adapt and will love having two of everything!! We moms always tend to think our kids are missing out when the family is split, but kids are elastic and end up having twice the fun!
A few years back, my ex was being the douchiest of douches for the xmas season, and was pissing me (and his girls) off soooo badly. He was acting like they were small children and that it was all HIS holiday. (I am a super easy going mom 90% of the time, and my girls were 11 and 14 at the time, waaaaay beyond babying stage). They didnt want to do something, he was trying to force them yadda yadda long story...so basically, it was Dec.14th and we just up and spontaneously decided to open ALL our xmas gifts! Fack it! I was done shopping, everything was under the tree..Its JUST a day....not like they were waiting for Santa. Ex was a dick, thinkng that he was screwing me over for something but we ended up "taking the wind out of HIS sails" by having a fun spontaneous Xmas 2 weeks early!! its all about making memories, and my daughters still laugh and talk about it! We are a unique family, sooo not traditional, we make our own rules. SHMEE, advice? Your ex is probably a dick too...dont let him get to you. If he thinks he is "winning" by having your 2 year old son with him on xmas> let him think that! Tell him you wll alternate xmas morning year to year. Honestly luv, your son is TWO. He wont remember a goddamn thing about this xmas!

[HeatherWake]

LIke Heather, I always seem to get the short end of the stick. I mean, it always seems to work out to his advantage.

Ughhh Kelly, I HATE this. :-(

[cowgirlmama04]

Our tree is an unique collection of everything, cheap balls, sometimes popcorn strings, things the kids have made, neat ornaments we have found, some of my DM and DF, and even some of my grandparents old ornaments, I have some 60-70 yr old ornaments and some from Isreal that my granny brought back. oh and since my old star broke, last year I used an edmonton Oilers Christmas hat as our tree topper.

I am definately not a prude when it comes to gag gifts in our house just about anything goes.

[wendyjane]

Xmas treat? Red balls of deliciousness
Great date? Child free anything!
Xmas tradition? Not so much
Tree theme? Nope. Not that organized.
Prude ?no. Sexual deviant? No. .
Fave music? I love Michael bubble, boppy pop stuff good to run to
fave type of tea? Chai esp. With green cardamom
Yep I need a great Map of the Rockies and or touristy stuff to do there for next summer.

Buddy question time: I'm on the last couple days of my vacation in Edmonton. We are headed for the mountains this weekend. Is there anything SMALL (read my suitcase is tight on space) that you might be interested in?

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[wendyjane]

What are a few of your favorite colours?



Orange brown grey beige lime green



How do you feel about animal prints? Zebra stripes, leopard spots etc etc? Not my thing







14. What is your favorite # from 1 - 23 and what is your favorite day of the week?

9. And? Any day that hubby is home for daddy duty







If you could pick only one flower, what is your favorite? Gerbera daisy

[wendyjane]

Bubble baths not so much
most wanted Xmas item? .???
most unwanted :/ Candy canes. They just don't get eaten by my crew
......that's it for now. Travel day tomorrow and back to MY computer which doesn't suck like this one

[Jody22002]

Just came back from shopping at SDM. I am not supposed to be out of bed yet but a girl needs to shop. There was not one thing on my buddy's wishlist that I could get from SDM. I did rock the points though. I did 75.00 on beauty stuff and bought a ton of stocking stuffers for the 4 teens on my life and got 18500 points. My personalized coupon this week was spend 75.00 on anything and get 18500 points so I used that to pick up some other Xmas stuff. 37000 points total!


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