Originally Posted by
torontogal12
I'm sure it is your father in law's dream to have his whole family together in one place, but if you have financial hardship, I"m sure he will understand if you don't go. Sounds like you have a meddling SIL. If you're holding out for a job with good schedules that helps you avoid paying exorbitant fees for child care, that is saving your family money and she is out of line for trying to meddle, and you don't have to explain that to her. Maybe you can convince your husband go alone to the reunion as a compromise that will make the old man happy as he gets older. But since money is such a problem, I think there's nothing wrong with asking father in law for help, since he is the one organizing it abroad and not closer to home.
Good luck, I hate impossible family situations like this where you're forced to spend more than you can afford, and if you don't, you become the bad guy