I am I being "offensive" and not being serious [story/rant]

[win-star]

Hi everyone!!

Have a little rant/story I want to get out and opinion from.

A co-worker asked me the day before to pick him up at the bus stop before work so he doesn't have to walk up to work. I agreed as we are very good friends/co-worker where we talked often and "hung out" outside of working hours and do alot of joking around.


So ... the following day [today] he texted me "don't forget to pick me up!!"

I responded "Who is this?! I forgot!! .... Joking haha"

He responded back in about 10 mins ... "I'll walk to work instead, your joke is very offensive and I don't like it"

[Walking is 1.8 km from bus stop to work]


The whole day he never talked even though I apologized to him that I did not mean to hurt his feelings. Between me and him, we knew each other for 3+ years and we joke with/at each other without a problem. We traveled places a few times to tourist places.

He says my joke was offensive and that he will not talk to me again because I am not handle the situation seriously.

Do you think he's over doing the situation? I know it was wrong on my part but we normally "joke" like that and he never says a thing about not liking it or to stop the way i joke. It's just out of the blue he says I am not serious and offensive

[Natalka]

That was just silly of him, there was nothing wrong in what you said.

[GoJays]

He went way overboard, win. Your comment sounds like something I'd say, there was nothing wrong with it. It sounds like he's being a big baby.

[Shwa Girl]

OP, agree with the other posts.
Give it some time and he may come around.
Plus there may be other things going on in his life, that he's dealing with.

Have a great Canada Day long weekend.

[TooCouponCrazy]

I wouldn't worry about it. Hopefully he will realize how silly he was and all will be well. After all you are doing something nice for him.

[bargain_hunter_lola]

Maybe he's just having a bad day? Perhaps he'll come around.

I agree with other posters that under the circumstances (of what you posted) he's over-reacting.


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[walkonby]

wow, we talk like that all the time here ( sarcasm rules! ) so i say he just overreacted to your comment. Especially after you apologized he was snitty? What a baby.

[Crochetlady]

Big over reaction on his part.

[frugal50]

you're better off without him, he sounds unstable!!

[i_forget]

Give him time to cool off, if he does not, then oh well. Life is too short to be pissed off about petty things.
I liked your joke. It is something that I say all the time to people, and they get it because they get me.

[Lynn49]

Wow. His undies must have been too snug that morning!
You joked.
He didn't think it was funny.
You apologized.
The ball's in his court to forgive and forget.
If he does, fine.
If not, I don't think it's a big loss....if not this incident, he'd have taken offence at something else another day.
He sounds a little flakey to me.
Keep it a business relationship...you won't miss him, and your friendship is his loss.

[hollyquaiscer]

Sounds like your buddy woke up on the wrong side of the bed. It's obvious that he has things on his mind, otherwise, why would he choose that time to say something???? You did nothing wrong, if you can't joke around with one of your besties, who can you joke with. I don't feel you should have apologized only because you did nothing wrong, so if nothing else, your doing so should have proved to your friend that you truly care about your friendship.

You've done your part, the rest is up to him. I'm sorry this has happened.

[Shwa Girl]

Wow. His undies must have been too snug that morning!

[Mia001]

don't worry, as other posters said, it'S a joke i'd do myself......no offense at all.....

as someone who know you and you are joking together quite often.....he must have laught at it

he overreacted and has low sense of humor imho

[travelgeek]

If that's exactly the conversation, I don't even see why you even had to apologize. I wouldn't have. Move on.....