Chronic Pain Management Support Group

[PinkLincoln]

Thanks for that. My assessor person was pretty good, she could have been worst. If I was having difficulty, she'd show me a way to do something. One thing was squatting. I told her I could try as long I could hold onto something, but she said I couldn't, but usually when I squat my knee can't support and I have fallen over a few times, so they probably didn't want the liability lol they also said I couldn't hold onto things while doing any of the exercises, I walk with a cane most days, so it was something I had to do through the whole thing, or I would have been done after 20 minutes instead of 2 hours. Though, my issues are kind of visable, my left knee is always swollen and when I stand, my knee cap goes off to the left, it just looks bad, where my right knee is rather boney and looks normal. I was in tears at one point trying to hide it, it was horriable.

[$$avingmom]

Wow, 2 hours PinkLincoln! That must have been VERY hard, you're a trooper! I hope that the assessment at least gets you further ahead in your quest for answers and pain relief. Have a great Easter weekend

[Tweetybird999]

Oh my. That sounds like hours of torture. I hope the outcome from all that is good.

[PinkLincoln]

I hope so though I doubt it. I told the accessor that I have tried everything except injections, because the recendations for injections have been 50/50. 2 doctors don't want me to because of my age and the potential of damage from long term exposure, they suggested I could get 1 a year, but if it only works for 3 months I could just continue a less invasive way of pain management. Surgery was supposed to be my cure all for my knee, I went in to just get a scope, and left finding out they took out all my cartridge and the supportive matter that goes around my knee cap as that was damaged too. So, my knee cap has no support when I move or walk, and just slowly grinds away causing hurty. Before my surgery, this problem was tolerable. I couldn't work on my feet, but I never had problems sitting, and could still care for myself/do house work within moderation. Now the simplest tasks kill me, it rather depressing how something the size of a toonie (of you think about it) has turned my life upside down lol

[PinkLincoln]

Also; I make all natural hot cold packs. You can also find them at some flea markets if people have made them, but when heated it creates a moist heat which I have found to be helpful, or if you can sew you can make one yourself with some oats, buckwheat and some scrap fabric. I also put a few cloves in mine, mainly because I don't like the beany smell of oats, but I find it works better then a regular hot pack.

[Tweetybird999]

I made a bunch for Christmas for my family a few years ago. Stuffed them with rice and lavender.

[PinkLincoln]

Can lavender be microwaved without catching fire? I wanted to try different scents, I love cloves because evertime I heat it up, it smells like gingerbread lol

[Tweetybird999]

I didn't have a problem, but put in small quantities so the pillow didn't smell for long. But it probably could catch on fire now that I think of it. I've had oregano light on fire in my oven...yes, one of my many cooking disasters.

[MrsSunshine]

good grief.. would you all stop trying to light your kitchens on fire.. lol... for me i thought once April arrived i'd be in the free and clear.. apparently not.. this cold has just thrown me for a loop. im so glad were not hosting dinner this weekend for Easter. i couldn't do all the work and still stand. ive only been tackling laundry and the norm and im aching. i hate it. feel like im 90 and far from it. i can seriously feel everything in my back from where I had my epidural 18 years ago to where my back was injured at work 6 years ago.. every muscle and nerve. it sucks.

[Abby5]

Has anyone had problems with their spouse?? I have been I'll since 2006 and off work for over a year now. And I have had no pay. My husband said he is going to fix up the house and sell it and he will be done with me. He does not want council ing . And wants to leave right away but he says he can't afford it because I suck all the money. He doesn't talk to me and when he has to , it is to be mean and degrading. I have no money no nothing... I am so much pain..what am going to do???

[Tweetybird999]

Sent PM. You are going to be just fine. You have a lot of power in this situation. If he hasn't realized it, he will be paying even more for 2 households. You can't change anyone, but you can control your reaction. Let him see how much legal fees cost and maybe he will want to be nicer.

[Abby5]

Thanks Tweety. I spent $15000 5 yrs ago when my first son's father decided to go for full custody of him (he was 14yrs old at the time) and he did not want to go. So I fought for him...so my husband knows how much legal fees are. Btw his father has never called or seen him since.

[$$avingmom]

so sorry to hear your husband isn't understanding of your situation Abby. Mine is! He gets frustrated with me at times, but I understand that. I get frustrated with me too, or should I say I get frustrated with my body. Chronic pain is really hard for someone else who hasn't been there to understand. I find the hardest thing to get my hubby to understand, is that when I'm going thru a spell when I'm in a lot of pain that I'm not meaning to neglect him. That it's the pain that is keeping me from spending time with him.

[Abby5]

Thanks $$avingmom....thought my husband was good too. But I guess he has had enough..and it is not worth it to him anymore...maybe he found someone else??

[PinkLincoln]

My DHs ex wife wouldn't let him see his son after she found out his life expectancy at the time was 6 months from terminal cancer, we had the money donated to us for legal fees, the judge was also sympathetic towards DHs situation when he tried to represent himself, but duty council kept leading him in the wrong direction, so a lot of people gave us money to finally get a lawyer, and because dh was at the time, supposed to drop dead, the whole thing was done and over with in a month and she looked very bad. And it all started becuse he got his prognosis, and just asked if he could have more then every other weekend, as if he gets too ill, he won't be able to take him at all, which completely backfired on him, the whole thing was just sickening that DHs dying wish was to see his son more then "she would allow" now she was forced to sign a document saying if she does it again, she will have to pay back the legal fees plus it's police enforceable.

Our whole relationship has been based on supporting each other. When we first met, he got into a car accident and hurt his back so he couldn't work full time, but being skilled in just about everything, he could get an odd but high paying job to do 1-2 days a month to float us. I was working full time at a rather high paying job, but when he got diagnosed with cancer, I had to get a second job. Being on my feet for 70hrs a week eventually destroyed my knee, when I had surgery, he had to stop his cemo just to care for me. Now, my income is reduced and my insurance company sucks ass, I try to squirrel away every penny I can. But, I can't do house work anymore, which causes a lot of fights. His cancer went into remission, so he's started a rather successful business which pays most of th bills, but exhausts him. Everything is about give and take, but I think we both realize we are always reliant on each other when it comes to money, caring for each other, or just knowing things the other person doesn't. I'm not going to say we are perfect, but it's a suitable enough foundation. He is also rather old fashioned, we hate each other some days, but he said he isn't going anywhere till one of us dies, or I cheat on him (which won't happen) lol but the person has to have that willingness to commitment, and either change, fix, or love you enough to live with what he doesn't like, after all, nobody is perfect.

One of my clove bags I have used for a few years, still smells as good as the day I made it lol and in a 1ftx5in bag, I only used about a tablespoon. Another possibility is blending the mix in essential oils, but that may fade overtime too, but less likely to catch fire lol