I have to get this off my chest before I can fully relax and have a good nights sleep.
I've been dating my boyfriend for three months. All of his friends have serious girlfriends and sometimes I'm left wondering where I stand!
His group of friends are very tightly knit and they have all welcomed me into their group, which is fantastic. However, I find my boyfriend excludes me from group events sometimes.
I understand he needs alone time, but why am I not invited when it is a large group thing?
For example, a few Saturdays ago I got off work and texted my BF as I had no plans. He let me know he was just having a guys night. That's fine with me! But a few days after that he was telling me a story that involved a girl at his house that same night -- GUYS NIGHT. I asked him why she was there, and why I wasn't invited. He said he didn't know they were coming and he can't control who comes to his house. I let him know how excluded I felt and that I wasn't understanding why he wouldn't have invited me. So I figured he'd stop excluding me, purposely or not.
Next example, him and I have plans but I am exhausted by the time I'm done work and he happens to be hanging out with his BFF. my BF never gets to see his BFF these days so I said "you never get to hang out with BFF anymore, you two have a good night together :)" and that was the end of our conversation. So last night we were out for dinner with BFF and BFF's GF. GF started talking about that night, and what they were all doing. They had a party! But I wasn't invited! We had plans and I obviously chose to do nothing so my BF could spend some time with his buddy and then they have a party and don't invite me?
This rant is getting way too long, but I honestly am wondering why I'm excluded when I get along with everyone. I'm thinking I need to make myself more distant to make him realize he wants me around.
Sometimes the girls invite me even when my BF doesn't, and I find that so awkward because I always check with him first so it's like "hey, is it okay if I come to that thing you didn't tell me about because the girls invited me". Is it acceptable to just start making plans with the girls and forget about asking my BF?
Ah, I can finally sleep! Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated!:shock: