QOTD - Thursday May 21- Do you RSVP or not?

[Shwa Girl]

Question of the Day - RSVP
Danger Dan is away on vaycay (still). Thanks for responding to my QOTD yesterday.

When you are invited to a party, wedding, baby shower, dinner etc and the sender asks you to reply if you are coming, do you send a reply? If not, why not?

[Shwa Girl]

I remember a local story about an RSVP incident a little while ago.

A Peterborough teen, Odin, who has Asberger's Syndrome, received no replies to his birthday bowling party invitation. Odin has difficulty making friends and socalizing. His mother went to local Facebook page to discuss Odin's wish. Well, thousands came to wish Odin happy birthday. Twitter and Facebook wishes for a happy birthday came from many, including Justin Trudeau. Odin was very happy with the outcome.

http://news.nationalpost.com/news/ca...birthday-party

[toronto166]

I always RSVP, whether it's yes or no. I just think it's the decent thing to do...common courtesy.

[Shwa Girl]

I always RSVP, whether it's yes or no. I just think it's the decent thing to do...common courtesy.

I agree. Especially if they are preparing food, making reservations, paying for a room rental -- they need to know how many to expect and how many meals to order...

[bargain_hunter_lola]

I always RSVP, regardless whether we can attend or not. It only takes a minute and it's a common courtesy that is usually very appreciated.

I really cannot understand why someone wouldn't RSVP... It just takes a quick call/text/email to say that they got your invite but unfortunately we cannot attend. Or worse when people don't RSVP and then show up. WHY? I'd be too embarrassed to do that.

People ask for a RSVP for a reason, it's just BASIC etiquette to respond. If they didn't want you to RSVP then they wouldn't ask you to.

[Natalka]

Of course.

[walkonby]

yes, we mail back the RSVP in a timely manner too, not at the last minute.

[dededi]

Always, I do it out of common courtesy. I hate it when other people don"t respond to me.

[beckie.c]

It always adds stress for me when people don't let me know if they will be coming or not, so I try to always RSVP in a timely fashion.

[Frugalbigmama]

Yes, Always. Rude not to if they requested RSVP.

[toronto166]

yes, we mail back the RSVP in a timely manner too, not at the last minute.

I was invited to a baby shower once and one of the prizes they gave out at the shower was "to the first person that rsvp'd"......I won!!! It was for a co-worker of mine and it was a no brainer that I would attend. Point is I try to rsvp a.s.a.p.

[TaraF]

Absolutely. It's just common courtesy.

[Shwa Girl]

Recently there was a story of a child's birthday party at a local restaurant. Many sent an RSVP to the mother organizing the party. Some even said they would stay with their child at the party. One child came to the party, late, with their parent. The birthday party organizer met the late comers at the entrance, welcomed the child and explained that since there was no RSVP, the parent was responsible for paying for the child's meal, since all the funds were allocated to guests who replied that they were coming.

[morningrose]

I always R. S. V. P, to kids birthday parties I would make a point to say why we r not able to attend too so birthday kid will get prepared before hand if my kids weren't able to attend.

[xlxo]

I generally do RSVP and expect others to do the same. Makes it easier for the organizer plan for the number of person attending.

In recent years with eldercare, it's much harder to commit to functions.

• I now provide an RSVP with a percentage of likelyhood of showing up. Organizers have respected this and have been great working around my limitation.
• Another approach is to ask to be "waitlisted" for events that have a set limit on the number that can attend. I ensure the keeners are given first chance and then come in as a seat filler if space allows. I found this way works best with my commitment issues.