Originally Posted by
Wizerman
Hi OP,
I beg to differ, as I have some different thoughts. Please disregard my post, if you or anyone does not like.
From your post, I can imagine your painful financial struggle before few years. I am glad that you (and your H) worked very hard to overcome it.
Having said above...
Basically, the most important part is - MIL is a M of your H. Try to recollect, what struggles our parents might have gone through when we were born/child. Therefore, try to forget the past of your financial struggle OR at least pretend to forget it.
Currently, if you are in a ok/good/better financial condition, and if your parent needs your financial help in their old age, due to some reason; it is okay to do your best help AT LEAST ONCE. You may have a clear communication (prior to any financial help) with your MIL that it is a one time help only. (Please avoid any past in your communication/conversation/expression).
Just imagine - Even if you become billionaire in future, but, if parents dies due to their age... the scar of NOT helping parent will leave a big scar - an unforgettable painful memory.
Parent's blessings and/or your unconditional KARMA will help you a lot in your future in various ways. Remember, what goes up comes down.