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Thu, Apr 3rd, 2014, 07:08 AM #46
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vesper....hmmm. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, walks like a duck but invades your privacy.....it is NOT a girlfriend. Please reconsider that relationship.
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Thu, Apr 3rd, 2014, 12:20 PM #47
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It looks like 'thumbs down' all the way. There is never, ever any excuse for invading someone's privacy. It's one thing to look through DVDs, books, etc, on shelves, but to blatantly attempt to break into a computer?!!
Vesper, we've been married for 44 years....and to this day, when my hubby asks me for something and it's in my purse, he will NOT go into it!!
Now THAT'S showing respect for a partner....!!!
And yes, I never go into his wallet, either, in case anyone asks..
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Thu, Apr 3rd, 2014, 01:29 PM #48
I'm with Lynn49 on this one - my relationship is similar to hers. I simply can't imagine my partner or me even going into each other's wallet/purse, let alone rumaging through each other's papers or trying to break into password-protected accounts. Personally speaking, if even a fraction of the things that this woman did to you/your things was done to me, the relationship would be over, immediately. I might consider my options re: a restraining order, too, if warranted. Her behaviour is creepy, invasive, and unacceptable.
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Thu, Apr 3rd, 2014, 02:13 PM #49
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Boundaries......get some !!
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 05:58 AM #50
On one night while I was gone, she became overcome with fear that maybe I was something that I am not, and in a panic she did her snooping. She had to be sure, she knew my ex girlfriend well and the horror that woman put me through.
She is an only child from a very well to do farming family, her parents kept her isolated on that farm, and more or less pushed her to marry a man from another well to do farming family, who also kept her isolated on his farm. Before she was 30, both her parents had passed away and she divorced her husband and is now running her family farm and leasing out her share of her ex husbands farm.
She is very stable and balanced except when it comes to feeling neglected.
I'm going to keep seeing her, I'm willing to work with her on her trust issue. I'm not naive but I am a bit excitable and will move slow enough to ease her, but fast enough to make things fun.
AT her core, she is amazing. I'm the lucky one here, for I had the courage to make a move while other men were too intimidated by her. Yahoo!!Last edited by vesper; Tue, Apr 8th, 2014 at 05:59 AM.
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 06:38 AM #51
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Well, you have made your decision, vesper.
I wish you well.
I hope you are well.
Let us know you are o.k. and not tied up.
Blink twice if you are o.k.
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 08:34 AM #52
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Last edited by Shwa Girl; Tue, Apr 8th, 2014 at 08:36 AM.
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 09:50 AM #53
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I understand being wary of a person's intentions and wanting to check them out...
however i don't see how trying on your clothes and cologne fit into that.
it seems she needs some time to sort through her insecurities.
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 10:24 AM #54
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Cool beans Vesper!!! She sounds like an interesting and amazing person, I hope she can see how lucky she is to find another interesting and amazing person like yourself.
As a fellow snoop, I get how she wanted to look and see what she was getting herself into. As much as I love my honey, I know when we were single, I snooped all over his place to make sure he was over and done with his previous gf (I know, insecurities....). That is only the product of being in a relationship where I was dogged and cheated on....
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 01:42 PM #55
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Me thinks she has a bit more going on than just feeling neglected.......
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Tue, Apr 8th, 2014, 10:11 PM #56
Looks like you've made up your mind. Keep your guard up.
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Thu, Apr 10th, 2014, 11:07 PM #57
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BAAHHHH !! That would be amazing.. i'm sure they even shook their heads in shame. Hopefully we all this hoopla they got fed.. Did they lose any weight ? lol
uhmm... yeah ok .. "of course she did" ... try and break in 97 times !?!? .. now if that's not obsessive I don't know what is. If someone did that to be they'd be history.. plus... you don't have to pay for her ex-husbands crap and deal with this.. how much energy are you going to put trying to make her feel at ease and all vs. what you're getting back ?? You did nothing to lose her trust yet you're going to be working your A$$$$ off trying to gain it cause for some reason you're paying for past A-hole(s) ..
and the disappear-to-be-alone-no-internet-at-the-farm thing.. ?? weird.. I'd have a tendency to think SHE's busting some shady crap since shady people think others are shady.. and therefore.. THIS is shady.. just saying.
for sure.. but .. trying on clothes and trying to break into the computer... 97 TIMES ?! She's in a whole other ballgame..
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This is all fine and dandy in theory.. but you're going to spend most of your time defending stuff you never even did that are the complete creations of her mind and trust me .. thats bs..
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Sun, Apr 13th, 2014, 09:29 AM #58
She has issues from the way her ex husband treated her so that may tie into her behaviour. If someone did that to me- trying to break into your computer 97 times and snooping, it would make me uncomfortable. Just be careful Vesper. However you know her better than us- in real life- and if you believe you can help ease her than that's your choice.
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Sun, Apr 13th, 2014, 11:19 AM #59
Try going back and reading your original post with fresh eyes, as if it was written by someone you didn't know.
I don't know you, but when I read it, my stomach twisted. Just because a person is nice, attractive, and intelligent does not mean they are mentally stable or good people to have in your life.
I noticed you back-tracked a bit and said that perhaps you over-reacted and that, after all, everyone is curious/snoops a bit.
Trying to break into password protected accounts and going through your personal belongings?
To each their own, but in my life, that elicits a resounding, "No bloody way!"
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Sun, Apr 13th, 2014, 12:25 PM #60
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