Marriage age difference question

[win-star]

My parents and I got into a discussion a bout marriage age difference and I want to ask your opinion of everyone here.

My parents says that it's better as a male to marry a female that is a few years younger because of maturity. They say female mature faster than men .. etc.

My opinion is that age doesn't matter, as long as the person gets along with each other, similar personality, etc.

So to the ladies out there, would you marry a guy who is lets say 1 or 2 year younger than you?

and guys would you marry a girl who is older than you 1 or 2 years old?

So what is you opinion and explain your reason.


Thanks,
Chris

[Litesandsirens911]

my answer to the question from a womans point of view is yes I would...I am also of the belief that age is just a number and it doesn't matter, if you both love each other and get along well, then who cares...my step-daughter's real mother is 37 and her husband of 4 years is 51....and my own sister was with a guy (common law) for 14 years, and she was 20 and he was 31.In MY OWN opinion, it doesn't matter as long as you are happy....

[sj1986]

My husband is younger than myself on my 6 months. But I believe that age does not matter if both parties are in love.

[Andit]

A few yrs really doesn`t matter, as long as both parties involved are happy.

Having said that, it *does* make a difference at certain stages in life. For example, the relationship will have a lot of strain if one is in school & partying every night, while the spouse is in the workforce & needs a good night`s sleep. A 40 yr old marrying a 45 yr old is a whole different situation than an 18 yr old marrying a 23 yr old.

Then there are the weirdos like me who don`t want to get married.

[trucks12trucks]

To me a few years doesnt matter both ways..as long as everyone is happy.

[Midnightly]

the older you get the less the age difference matters in my mind.. people to mature differently, people settle down at different ages and points in thier life but for situations of very young couples (thinking teens) that few years can be a massive difference

[lekate]

A few yrs really doesn`t matter, as long as both parties involved are happy.

Having said that, it *does* make a difference at certain stages in life. For example, the relationship will have a lot of strain if one is in school & partying every night, while the spouse is in the workforce & needs a good night`s sleep. A 40 yr old marrying a 45 yr old is a whole different situation than an 18 yr old marrying a 23 yr old.

Then there are the weirdos like me who don`t want to get married.

Ahh i so agree about the stages in life thing, it's not about age, but stage in life, age is closely related, so many just think age is the issue. But even if a 27 yo were in a relationship with a 21yo (doesn't matter about gender it can go either way), the 27 yo is most likely ready for marriage, children, a house and the 21 yo most likely isn't! But that's just stages in life, the 27yo has done school, started their career, etc, whereas the 21 yo is still in school, possibly considering masters, hasn't started their career, probably still partying etc.

Personally I'm with someone who's 13 months younger than me. We broke up because he wasn't where I was, but once we broke up he realized how stupid he's been not growing up and taking life seriously. *crosses fingers things work out this time*

[lekate]

the older you get the less the age difference matters in my mind.. people to mature differently, people settle down at different ages and points in thier life but for situations of very young couples (thinking teens) that few years can be a massive difference

Even a year can make a difference in hs, when one's going to uni and the other still has their last year!

[trucks12trucks]

Even a year can make a difference in hs, when one's going to uni and the other still has their last year!

agreed..but in a marriage it can work out. unless you are marrying when you are 17..whole another issue

[maidennomore]

Crap.

My first husband was 15 years my senior. He was 36 and I was 21 when we married.
I was very much in love with him at the time (mind you, he was very hesitant at first about getting involved with a "young girl"). I know a lot of people think that a May-December relationship can be exploitative, especially on the part of the older party, but he always treated me with respect and as an equal.

I was drawn to him because he was intelligent, funny, sensitive and had a successful career - but, more than anything, his life experience and maturity (relative to my own) were very attractive.

[lady_arianna]

i used to think it depends on the people, its not for everyone, and as some pp have said as long as they are on the same page life wise...

and then my younger sister (20) started dating someone who is older than our mother (and 3 years younger than our father) i guess i don't have as much of an issue with their age difference as i do that their relationship is very on again off again... and she is some how the more mature one in it...

[Justine]

It all depends on what you are looking for and the person themselves. Some people are mature at 18 and some at 30 and some are young at heart. Some people get along really well, and others will butt heads if have a big age difference.

I would date someone younger than me. But just because I think it would suit my personality, I prefer people who aren't too serious.

I read a study recently that showed that women start out wanting to date the same age, as they older they are willing to date younger or older, becoming less picky. But men, no matter the age, they are always to date younger.

[TaraF]

Would I marry a guy that was younger than myself? That would depend on quite a few factors, the main one being how old am I? At my current age (30) no I wouldn't date younger let alone marry someone younger and that's due to the fact that most guys under about 35 or 40 (at least that I've encountered) are very immature. I married older (my hubby is 6 years older) and if I were single and say 45 yeah I might date a few years younger.

I think in general it is true that females tend to mature faster but it isn't true in all cases. Really when it's you and the situation you are in you need to weigh everything involved. A quick story: My brother is separated from his wife at the moment (He is 33 and she is 27) they married when she was 22 and he was 28, she confessed to him that she didn't realize that marriage was such a huge commitment. Personally I think she is just an idiot, but sadly many people (especially notice it in younger ones) don't realize how much of a commitment marriage really is and it's treated as disposable.

[Karebear68]

My husband is 12 years younger than I am. I turn 42 tomorrow, and he is 30.

[D-Roc]

Cougers rock!!!



My wife is 5 years younger and what is interesting is that we have been together for 17 years. Married for 11. I met her when she was 16 and I was 21.
So with that saying even a 18 year old being with a 23 year old would be fine with me as long as it was a healthy relationship.