What is the deal with?

[JordanBrown]

.............What would you do if your boyfriend or husband tried to tell you when you could use your computer example....tell you its is to early or started mumbling starting a fight with you........saying it is ruining your life or he is plainly trying to control you........just being an ass about it.........what would you do?

[walkonby]

He might just be missing you and envious of the time it takes away from your relationship maybe? Just putting it out there. Or maybe he is just being an ass. lol
Try to do nothing, just smile and hope he gets over himself. Good luck.

[KK7]

I would show him the door lol. I know a bit harsh.

[snow00774]

I'd ask him why he feels that way, is it everything I do on the computer or one particular thing? I'd ask myself if the time I spent on there was reasonable compared to the 'doing things together' time I spend - then I'd base my next actions on those answers...whether to reevaluate the relationship overall, or cut back my computer time.

[Natalka]

.............What would you do if your boyfriend or husband tried to tell you when you could use your computer example....tell you its is to early or started mumbling starting a fight with you........saying it is ruining your life or he is plainly trying to control you........just being an ass about it.........what would you do?

Sounds like it's time for a good sitdown talk with him, ask for specific examples, see what things you can do differently to ameliorate the situation - I suppose, generally ask youself and discover what is more important to you - a balanced, healthy relationship or too much time spent on the computer.
Good luck!

[Ilikefree]

There might be good reason for the BF to be making these requests/suggestions. It might be time to assess just how much time you are actually on the computer. Surfing this site, or others can be very time consuming and possibly taking over all aspects of your life.

[ssbean]

I would show him the door lol. I know a bit harsh.

[ferdo]

Alot of us are addicted to this! Could be true.

[Peachnuts]

I would show him the door lol. I know a bit harsh.

Agreed.
If it was one thing that bugged him and otherwise he was easy and loving then that's another story. But if this control and undermining spilled into other areas and made you feel bad about yourself. Yeah. Time to get out.

[recessionisnotfun]

My husband wouldn't dare say anything, he'd be picking his teeth up off the floor lol.
Mind ya I'm not on much, esc in summer. Maybe he feels threatened, or misses you?

[amandamck]

If he says it in a controlling voice... there's the door. If he says it like my DH, he's a genius he knows everything LOL !! well I just ignore him. We've been married 14 years so theres things I let just go over my head. He told me once I need to go to how to load the dishwasher school. I said I would after he completed the how to change the toilet roll course. Ahhh love

[Loner]

he sounds like a control freak
and has no respect for you
very destructive relattionship
I would get out ASAP

[aoffman]

I remember my now-ex-husband hiding my keyboard one night. It drove me mad, not so much that I couldn't use the computer, but that he did it.
In retrospect, maybe I should have been on the computer less. But wrong way to go about it...

Taking away toys, privileges etc, is what we do to our children for punishments...not our spouses.

[screamy]

My husband wouldn't dare say anything, he'd be picking his teeth up off the floor lol.

+1

If he says it in a controlling voice... there's the door.

AMEN.

If he says it like my DH, he's a genius he knows everything LOL !! well I just ignore him....He told me once I need to go to how to load the dishwasher school. I said I would after he completed the how to change the toilet roll course.

*snort*

[KellyC]

If my computer use was ruining my life or someone else's....I'd shut it down and figure out an appropriate time to use it.