Losing weight is the physical goal, managing all the emotional reasons we got to this point is the key to long term success. I need to manage the stress at home better. Even though it gets tougher I have to come up with new strategies to combat it and the inevitable.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lynn49
I wonder if any newbies will jump on board this year?
not a newbie lol ....but , sure i'm in....
i need some reminding:
what is the goal and ''due'' date ? e.g. loose 30 pouns by Easter...
when is weighting day ?
BTW, can someonse recomend m a good scale....i got rid of my electronic one....maybe my weight broke it lol
what is the goal and ''due'' date ? e.g. loose 30 pouns by Easter...
when is weighting day ?
---the thread started (in another thread actually) with timeline to lose 20 by easter I think...and has evolved into management and support to set your own!
---I plan to lose 10 before summer and 5 more, if I can
I've watched so much of those emotional challenges on Biggest Loser; the breakdowns before the break-throughs!Quote:
Originally Posted by Patty Smyth
What new strategies have you developed, Patty, if you can share....we can all use a little help, I know I can, however I think I snack out of boredom, ESP in the evening. Knitting usually can keep me focused and away from nibbling...
I have a Eatsmart Precision GetFit Digital Body Fat Scale and it's been pretty good so far. It's received excellent reviews on Amazon.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mia001
45 pounds by June 1st is my goal. Attainable? who knows. We shall see.
My goal is the same, 1 pound a week for infinity :P
I have a basic digital WW scale, but I didn't buy it at WW...it's still going strong for over 3 years...
http://www.thetoolstore.ca/catalog/032649590.jpg...whatever those buttons are, I never use 'em..:)
Home Depot has it: 39.99
http://www.homedepot.ca/product/weig...l-scale/912565
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Originally Posted by Lynn49
My strategy is simple, I tell my self to suck it up. lol I have no other way to cope with the stress in the house. Since the source of the stress is in the house I have to either accept and move on. I try to avoid situations best as I can(my father and his denial of my mom's illness) and I have learned to detach from people I love in order to function, mainly my mother. If I could not detach I would be an emotional basket case. So do I "love" my mother still. Hard question I would say probably not in the mother/daughter sense. Maybe just in a caregiver way now. The person that was my mother is gone going on 10 years now. Dealing with my father and his constant state of anger/resentment is a whole other ballgame. :P You get used to it though, funny enough. 40 years of "roid" rage(asthma issues) and now resentment over having to cope with my mother, he is a real piece of work. lol Walking on eggshells becomes a way of life. I just try to shield the kids from it as much as possible and so far so good.
Goal? Gosh, I've never really gone past thinking "onderland". I can look pretty good if I now lose about the same as Curt...and Patty...let's wish us luck!! It seems a long way off to me, but I have to remember that it wasn't horrible losing my first 50, so yes, totally attainable!! I lost that weight from Christmas to the Spring last year!! I just remembered that!!!!! http://freezone.photoimpact-internat...dance-gigi.gif
Oh, I so do sympathize, having gone through that with my Mother who also lived with us, but you know that story by now, I imagine. I didn't, however, have to deal with what you're going through with your dad, as mine had passed away years before. I do recall, however, what it was like walking on eggshells when our son was still living with us: I don't think I was able to draw a deep breath, it seemed as if there was always a boulder in my chest that wouldn't allow me to breathe. We also had to shelter our daughter, and of course that all ended badly for him, at least, leaving home so early....Life can sure suck sometimes, can't it, Patty? But we got through it together, as I'm sure you and your hubby do, supporting each other...Quote:
Originally Posted by Patty Smyth
I'm guessing placing them into a 'home' wouldn't go over very well?
I always wish you well, Hon.....:hug:
No home for them, one of the conditions of him putting the house in my name this year was that I don't kick them out . Although I did tell him "this is not a hospital" and at some point decisions will have to be made.
Do you have help coming in, Patty? I'm not familiar with Quebec, but we had a care-giver in every morning to help my mom with her shower, share a cuppa tea, and BEST of all, for 4 hours once a week when hubby and I could get into the same car and have a lunch date! There isn't a cost for anyone here for that service; it would be so good for you, hubby and family....
two ham 'n cheese roll-up with a handful of grapes and now sipping peppermint tea...day 2 in moving right along. And my homemade chili/soup, lol, for dinner.
No my dad does not want any strangers in the house. Besides she is too far gone for certain types of care. She is 24/7 supervision, 100% incontinent and most places will not take her. There are no day cares for her. As for the bathing I do it because of her condition I cannot wait around for some nurse to show up at whatever time they feel like.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lynn49