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Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013, 11:22 AM #1
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so it was my ________ graduation
family were in hand to host him a dinner party
i am not close to this dude nor do i like him
his aunts both gave him monetary gifts
i didn't give him a red cent, why should i?
he's not technically my nephew and he gives me attitude
i feel justified.....This thread is currently associated with: N/ALast edited by frugal50; Tue, Jul 30th, 2013 at 06:59 PM.
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Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013, 05:09 PM #2
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Oh, there are relations that are really hard to be around for family gatherings. If you managed to be civil during the dinner party, then you might have the thick skin necessary for possible post-party comments about your lack of gift-giving (people DO talk, so be prepared).
I have a feeling you had to appear at the party. I have chosen to avoid certain relatives because we don't get along. When I do give gifts, I do want to have some goodwill existing between myself and the recipient. Otherwise, no gift is forthcoming.2021-Bring on the sunshine, sweets & online shopping.
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Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013, 08:11 PM #3
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This sounds like a brag, not a rant.. as to the why should I question.. giving a gift of some sort not only affects that family member, it affects those who observe, a grandmother.. a mom.. a sister or brother.. its part of being a family.. my sister has step sons as does my daughter.. once they became step family they became part of our family.. therefore to be treated as part of our family.
I don't know the rules of 'step' families though..
Having said that.. if I felt resentment toward someone enough that I couldnt give them a gift.. I wouldn't attend the event..Be sure to click like and post a brag if you get the deal.. It makes my day!!! Flattery may just get you more deals
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Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013, 08:53 PM #4
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Graduation - what a great achievement.
Some go to college, university or trade school but do not complete their certificate, diploma, degree, apprenticeship. There are many reasons why not.
Graduation is a great achievement. Congratulations to him.Last edited by Shwa Girl; Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013 at 09:03 PM.
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Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013, 09:08 PM #5
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I don't think there should ever be expectations of money or such - gifts are gifts because we choose to add to something ... being a part of a family gathering is a gift in itself to show encouragement and support for one another's achievement.
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Sat, Jun 22nd, 2013, 09:34 PM #6
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There's probably gonna be whole load on FB/Twitter about you...by your step-nephew his family and friends...
Still if it was me, I would hvae made a polite refusal to go to the party and sent a card.
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Sun, Jun 23rd, 2013, 09:33 AM #7
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Sun, Jun 23rd, 2013, 10:23 AM #8
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Step nephew? Does that mean he's your nephew on your husband's side... or your stepsibling's son?
For me, it would depend... I would feel required to give a gift to my husband's sister's son, but I probably wouldn't attend my husband's stepmother's grandchild's graduation party. She and my father-in-law married when my husband was past 30, so he has no connection with her children.
As kids, I guess we all knew the adult who chooses not to do anything for us, and we just accepted that. Our family had neighbours for years (an older couple without children) who we called auntie and uncle. They were around all the time for probably the first sixteen years of my life, and came to holidays and special occasions. They'd be over for coffee in the evening at least once a week. We'd all go camping together. The only time I received a gift from them was when I was about twelve years old and they bought me a little red phone book (worth about $3) with my name on it! They wore sweatshirts and jeans to my wedding. Our family just kind of shrugged our shoulders at their quirks and certainly never took any offense.
All the same, though, I don't think they'd be bragging about never doing anything for us as kids... I think they were just clueless!
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Sun, Jun 23rd, 2013, 02:38 PM #9
If I was going to attend, I'd spend less than $ 10 - get a dollar store card, go to Value Village and pick up 1 or 2 new books about "Secrets to Success", Business, etc., of something inspirational, , etc. ( $ 5. or less each). They have lots of books of this kind. I'm sure even Chapters has something for less than $ 10.
Then go online, find 2 inspiring quotes. Handwrite "Dear (Insert name of nephew), and write a quote, etc. inside the front cover of the book.
Then add the 2nd quote to the card. You've spent less than $ 10, yet, if attending, you did acknowledge the event, without having to give a "monetary gift" Even if your step nephew gives you attitude, you're the adult & you should lead by example. Plus, you come across as a better person, and it appears as if you put a lot of time & thought into a thoughful gift. But YOU know you only spent $ 10 and a few minutes of your time. Just my thoughts...
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Fri, Jul 5th, 2013, 01:35 AM #10
THIS. Well said, sassypants.
Good for you, frugal50, or not giving in. I find it really frustrating that materialism seems to dictate how we interact with relatives and firends and am tired of everything being a gift grab. It makes no sense to me that you shood be expected to buy something for a relative with whom you are not close...to me doing so would undermine the very meaning of giving a gift. A family member's presence should be enough and anything on top of that is a bonus in my books. If people have nothing better to do than gossip about it, well, that's their problem.
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Fri, Jul 5th, 2013, 03:29 PM #11
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Last edited by frugal50; Tue, Jul 30th, 2013 at 06:59 PM. Reason: language
You can't change other people. You can only change yourself"
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Tue, Jul 30th, 2013, 05:26 PM #12
This post is very informative. Thank you!
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