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cath007 You were generous to update relatives about your father's health and your viewpoint on the situation. Brace yourself for either someone wanting more of your time to provide updates (no, you do not need extra stress) or lack of offers to sit with Dad for two hours and talk with him while you go out. Remember the rule in air flights: make sure you have your own oxygen mask on before you help someone else.
Meaning: take care of yourself first. Make sure your cellphone plan is in your own name and that your phone will still work when the 3G network is shutdown this summer. Find out the cost of 1 bedroom apartments in your building, region or bigger cities. See if there are any cooperative apartment buildings that offer a studio or 1 bedroom apartment you could afford from your funds(I assume that your funds are in cash or easily converted to cash should you need it). Prepare for Eve the cat's future. Take bus trip for day to Montreal or outer boroughs now to assess resources and apartments and maybe reach out to past schoolmates for any accommodation (see what has few stairs to climb, is close to places to shop/visit doctor, get job or training opportunities) leads. Assess what belongings you will take with you when you find a new place or have to move after Dad dies.
The point is to not be overwhelmed if Dad's health worsens or if he passes away, therefore plan for you right now. You do not want to be stuck without phone if current tv/internet/phone billing is in his name and provider makes cancellation hard when Dad is too sick to do it or he passes away. Would you be able to afford Internet on own or would you want to live near a library with Internet?
Be the change you want to see. My phone service is paid until mid-July but I cannot renew it now without going without something if I spend the funds this month. My phone does not have voLTE ability (voicemail is 3G on Freedom)but the phone number is needed for two email accounts, Google Play store access and certain loyalty accounts so I have reason to keep phone number. Also it is handy to have separate phone provider from Internet provider during hydro or Internet issues, as I have experienced several such occurrences since last July. The idea is that Mom will have the phone after I pass.
My health is worsening and if I want my passing to happen in hospice, I have to plan this passage soon as I have been avoiding it for two months. Whatever concerns (lots) I have about hospice will be overruled by main desire to die in hospice-that is all I can control.
May 12:
Appreciate all the thoughts by members! No way do I want to be in hospital when it is my time to go-I would not do well in a hallway with need to change my gauze pads every 3-4 hours, etc.