question about funerals

[Mia001]

mom's funerals are on May 20,

the chuch will be open half and hour before for the people who want to express their sympaties....

would it be ''ok'' if i skip this part....i just don't feel like being there, it's so hard for me....

what do you think ????


P.S. i smoothly try to let some people know .....

[Natalka]

Mia, it's totally fine. Be with your family before that, and go together. You will have time to meet with other people after the service.

[greeny]

I know it's hard. I found my dad's funeral extremely hard...but I also felt it comforting to have people come up to me and talk about my dad and how much they liked him. Sometimes talking to people can help a lot. But it is your choice.

[danger_dan]

Mia,
It is absolutely fine to not attend the first portion of the service. As Natalka noted, there will be time after the service to meet and speak with people.

[DiamondLil]

Do what is right for you. If being there before the service is too much to handle, skip it but let your nearest and dearest know you wont be there.

[Lynn49]

I agree with everyone, Mia...don't worry about what the proper thing to do is, in such a difficult time; everyone experiences the grief process differently and you have to do what you feel comfortable with. Explain to your family that the early part of the service would be hard on you, and that's it.

Remember the saying: "Those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind."

I wish you strength and blessings, Mia.

[Mia001]

tomorrow is mom,s funerals, it will be pretty hard for me....i can't see mom's picture without crying and there will be a big one just in front of us at the Church.....DH told me he will go and remove it ....because seeing me crying breaks his heart...

[frugal50]

you don't have to be there, i know i wouldn't.