how to live with the hatred.....

[Mia001]

when it'S directed toward you ?

[Natalka]

Oy, that's a big open question - of course, the answer depends upon the specifics...

But in general - know who you are, be confident and comfortable in yourself, and don't let others control how you feel about yourself - your actions, thoughts, etc. should reflect your authentic self.
We don't need toxic people in our lives, life is already complicated enough to deal with.

[KK7]

Well the big question is can you remove this person from your life???? That should be your first move, even if it is family. Your hapiness is what counts. As Natalka said you don't need toxic people in your life. In can affect your phyiscal health and your mental health. You have to learn to filter what they say to you, even if it is hard.

[annedougherty]

Yep! Chop out the toxic people!

[Mia001]

no worry it'S not someone that is around in my personnal life.....

so, i totally can avoid them but sometimes, i stumble on them ....

and knowing that someone hates you is pretty hard it drain the energy

[walkonby]

Mia001
Please, if you get the chance to go to the theatre and watch the movie called The Help, there is a scene where Cicely Tyson's character talks to Emma Stone's character about pretty much this kind of thing.
Plus the movie itself will make you laugh so hard you'll pee and cry so much you'll wish you had brought tissues.
I wish you luck with this.

[annedougherty]

no worry it'S not someone that is around in my personnal life.....

so, i totally can avoid them but sometimes, i stumble on them ....

and knowing that someone hates you is pretty hard it drain the energy

Hold your head high, look them right in the eye, and give them a big smile!

[Patty Smyth]

It makes me extremely happy that I can still stir up such emotions in people even 10 years after the initial incident. Now that's power, and of course I ignore them. lol Makes them even madder.

[KK7]

Hold your head high, look them right in the eye, and give them a big smile!

[DaveP]

I can't believe anyone could hate you Mia.

[Lynn49]

Mia001
Please, if you get the chance to go to the theatre and watch the movie called The Help, there is a scene where Cicely Tyson's character talks to Emma Stone's character about pretty much this kind of thing.
Plus the movie itself will make you laugh so hard you'll pee and cry so much you'll wish you had brought tissues.
I wish you luck with this.

Oh, yay...my girlfriend and I are taking 'the guys' to see it this week..can't wait!! Thanks for the positive review!

As for that person who hates you, Ann is absolutely correct! Look them straight in the eye and give a half smile as if you know something they don't. It'll drive them crazy!
Then sashay away, confident in the knowledge that you're just peachy keen fine, and they can fire that hatred on all cylinders at themselves, which is what that kind of hatred does to a person. It just incinerates them....

[avoncallingu]

Hate originates inside the person who's sending it - that's very sad for them - but if you deflect it by not accepting it - then you stay well - and they have to find another way to make themselves feel better. You are a DEFINITE Sweetheart, Mia! Carry that "hate deflector" into their presence when you have to see them - if ever!

[ninna]

^ very well said!

I only had this happen once. A person at a new job I'd started hated my guts. Long story. Anyway, in her case, I simply ignored everything she said--which was mostly vicious comments to others about me and snotty talking to me when she "had" to talk to me for work purposes. Sometimes, I'd give her an extra wide smile when she'd scowl in my direction and sometimes, when I was feeling really ambitious, I'd do something nice for her to make her work load lighter. LOL.

Mostly though, I just pretended I didn't know she actually hated me and eventually, she decided that hating me wasn't worth the trouble anymore and she gave it up and moved on to something else to be angry at. Some people are just angry and miserable all the time and it sucks, but, they choose to be that way.

So just go on your merry way and don't worry about it. You're a good person and you know that inside. That's all that counts!

[DH666]

Ignore them. I would not care about a person that hates me at all. Like everyone else, I have my faults, but I am happy with myself and anyone who doesn't like me can go f*ck themselves, so to speak.