hate hate hate being treated like a freaking child

[krysta lynne]

OP - That is horrible what she said about your son and she absolutely should not have said that.

You might not be a bad mom, however cursing at her in front of your son is pretty bad and makes you appear to be a bad mom. Didn't we all learn growing up that 2 wrongs don't make a right?

the point of the entire thing was that she insulted my son. not me. the people who came in here to hate on me are the ones questioning my parenting. the title of the thread refers to the fact that people think i am younger than i am and therefore find me incapable of doing things properly.

it sort of muddled together into one.

i in no way shape or form regret how i reacted. if anything i feel i under-reacted. I can only hope that in the future the lady who was slinging insults at a baby will realize that people don't just sit idly by and take it. One day perhaps, someone without my restraint will be on the end of one of her digs and she will end up physically regretting her words. who knows?

[tearlessnights]

Its going to be scary whenever i have kids... I'm 21 and look about 16. lol

[ChristieJ]

OP, I'm really sorry that your son was called those nasty names. While I don't have children, I can empathize with parents out there because I used to babysit my niece and nephew over the summers while in University, and totally understand that they act up when they're tired. And, I also understand that you've got twice as much to deal with, as he might possibly be autistic (which requires you to be really tough and strong).

As I said, I used to babysit my niece and nephew as a p/t summer job. So, naturally, I'd have to take them out to stores if I needed to get something. I'd go dressed in jeans and tees, and as a University student, was pretty young. I'd get the un-wed mother comments, the baby having babies comments etc etc. But, I'd never respond to them. Quite simply, they're not worth it. They're already small-minded, and have made a fool of themselves (you should see the looks on their faces when my niece called me "Aunt Chris"). I'm certainly not going to even respond to such behaviour in the first place. Why would I want to give any yahoo out there the satisfaction that his/her dumb comment was even worth a response from me? No way!!!! Next time OP, ignore. That's the best way to pay them back.

[krysta lynne]

OP, I'm really sorry that your son was called those nasty names. While I don't have children, I can empathize with parents out there because I used to babysit my niece and nephew over the summers while in University, and totally understand that they act up when they're tired. And, I also understand that you've got twice as much to deal with, as he might possibly be autistic (which requires you to be really tough and strong).

As I said, I used to babysit my niece and nephew as a p/t summer job. So, naturally, I'd have to take them out to stores if I needed to get something. I'd go dressed in jeans and tees, and as a University student, was pretty young. I'd get the un-wed mother comments, the baby having babies comments etc etc. But, I'd never respond to them. Quite simply, they're not worth it. They're already small-minded, and have made a fool of themselves (you should see the looks on their faces when my niece called me "Aunt Chris"). I'm certainly not going to even respond to such behaviour in the first place. Why would I want to give any yahoo out there the satisfaction that his/her dumb comment was even worth a response from me? No way!!!! Next time OP, ignore. That's the best way to pay them back.

it was my son. she needed to be singled out. i dont regret it.

[matrix82]

I don't want to start any trouble, but speaking as a childless person, what is in my mind worse than a screaming child, is the parent screaming at the screaming child. That is what drives me.

I don't like screaming children. I once took a flight and for four hours had a screaming baby behind me (nothing you can do about that on a flight . To get away, I decided to try to plan where people wouldn't take kids. I thought well the parents won't take the baby and toddler to the airport pub. I was wrong, I was there ten minutes and what happens, the screaming baby (still screaming) and parents sit at the table behind me, out of all the empty tables, they had to sit there and torture my ears some more. Needless to say I didn't order, I got up and went to the quieter Tim Hortons. Just my luck. I guess they saved me some money that day, instead of a $15 burger, I had a $3 soup.

Way worse are the screaming parents. I wonder well what are the kids learning. I did call the police on one mother being very verbally abusive to her toddler, and somewhat physically abusive, cursing at the child, pulling it by it's arm. I was so glad to see the police pull up rather quickly to talk to the mom. Some people just shouldn't be parents. The behaviour of some of them make me worry about what that baby or child has to go through in private if this is the way the parent behaves in public.

I don't like screaming babies so I don't have a baby, I don't want a baby. I would like to adopt a child someday, but not a baby as I can't stand their screaming. I try to avoid areas with screaming children. If I walk into a restaurant and see a large amount of children running amok, I go somewhere else, grocery store if there are children unparented running around I just get in and out as quick as I can. As mainly I can't stand the screaming voice of the parent. I understand children are frustrating, but when you make the choice to have children and keep said children, then you should put up with all the stress that involves without screaming your lungs at them. I expect kids to be loud, I don't expect the parents to yell across a store "Timmmmyyy Doooonnn't DOooooo THAAAAATTTTT", I expect the parent to go over to the child or keep the child near them as they shop, instead of yelling.

Once I can handle the sound of screaming children then I will know I am ready to adopt. I just pray I won't be one of those screaming parents.

[ChristieJ]

it was my son. she needed to be singled out. i dont regret it.

I understand it's your child and why you were offended. And, I understand it's your opinion that she needed to be singled out. I just hope you can understand what my opinion is: It's not worth it in the end. You'll never see that woman again, and you'll have just become riled up for a nobody. Life is so hard as it is. I think we really need to pick our battles sometimes.

[MillieH]

Walkonby I am confused by your response to mine on the 'everyone treats me like a child ' post.. I made no comment at all on the isolated incident of her parenting skills.. just on the fact that she has the same problems with people treating her like a child everywhere she goes..

+1

C'mon Moms out there reading this.... have a heart!

When one of us puts our hand out we wouldn't mind it held, NOT cut off.

[wolfwoman]

MillieH- this isn't the first time ppl have gotten upset with your opinions. Best to let it go before the mods get involved. Just saying.

[IMLN]

Wow matrix82 is shows that you don't have kids!

ChristieJ My kids ARE my battle. No talking about eye rolling, sight or mumble...We are talking about verbal abuse towards a child from a stranger. That is a battle that needs to be dealt with, that person needs to know that name calling a child is a unacceptable behavior!

[krysta lynne]

I don't want to start any trouble, but speaking as a childless person, what is in my mind worse than a screaming child, is the parent screaming at the screaming child. That is what drives me.

I don't like screaming children. I once took a flight and for four hours had a screaming baby behind me (nothing you can do about that on a flight . To get away, I decided to try to plan where people wouldn't take kids. I thought well the parents won't take the baby and toddler to the airport pub. I was wrong, I was there ten minutes and what happens, the screaming baby (still screaming) and parents sit at the table behind me, out of all the empty tables, they had to sit there and torture my ears some more. Needless to say I didn't order, I got up and went to the quieter Tim Hortons. Just my luck. I guess they saved me some money that day, instead of a $15 burger, I had a $3 soup.

Way worse are the screaming parents. I wonder well what are the kids learning. I did call the police on one mother being very verbally abusive to her toddler, and somewhat physically abusive, cursing at the child, pulling it by it's arm. I was so glad to see the police pull up rather quickly to talk to the mom. Some people just shouldn't be parents. The behaviour of some of them make me worry about what that baby or child has to go through in private if this is the way the parent behaves in public.

I don't like screaming babies so I don't have a baby, I don't want a baby. I would like to adopt a child someday, but not a baby as I can't stand their screaming. I try to avoid areas with screaming children. If I walk into a restaurant and see a large amount of children running amok, I go somewhere else, grocery store if there are children unparented running around I just get in and out as quick as I can. As mainly I can't stand the screaming voice of the parent. I understand children are frustrating, but when you make the choice to have children and keep said children, then you should put up with all the stress that involves without screaming your lungs at them. I expect kids to be loud, I don't expect the parents to yell across a store "Timmmmyyy Doooonnn't DOooooo THAAAAATTTTT", I expect the parent to go over to the child or keep the child near them as they shop, instead of yelling.

Once I can handle the sound of screaming children then I will know I am ready to adopt. I just pray I won't be one of those screaming parents.

who was screaming? not me. and he wasnt. he was whining. big difference. and he is two. even if he was screaming who the heck is she to call him something so awful?

[krysta lynne]

I understand it's your child and why you were offended. And, I understand it's your opinion that she needed to be singled out. I just hope you can understand what my opinion is: It's not worth it in the end. You'll never see that woman again, and you'll have just become riled up for a nobody. Life is so hard as it is. I think we really need to pick our battles sometimes.

it was absolutely worth it. i would do it again in a heartbeat

[krysta lynne]

Walkonby I am confused by your response to mine on the 'everyone treats me like a child ' post.. I made no comment at all on the isolated incident of her parenting skills.. just on the fact that she has the same problems with people treating her like a child everywhere she goes..

because of what i look like. not how i treat my children. big difference.

no need for self reflection. i am an excellent mother.

[krysta lynne]

Wow matrix82 is shows that you don't have kids!

ChristieJ My kids ARE my battle. No talking about eye rolling, sight or mumble...We are talking about verbal abuse towards a child from a stranger. That is a battle that needs to be dealt with, that person needs to know that name calling a child is a unacceptable behavior!

exactly. i get frustration and sighs or whatever. the fact that she called my son such an awful name was the problem.

[ChristieJ]

happens everywhere. absolutely everywhere. i get dictated to and talked down to everywhere i go. nearly had it out with this lady at value village today when they basically to me to shut up my son who was fussy. told her to go f*** herself and to watch her mouth, she has no clue what im like when im defensive. so freaking sorry a two year old (who had behaved for an hour in there already) was ready to go and the line-ups were huge. soooooooo sorry. just because im not some forty year old mom (im 27) does not mean i am incapable of parenting.

i think people see me with my two year old and assume im some inexperienced mom who (because i look younger than my age) doesnt know what she is doing. meanwhile i have a nearly eight year old daughter and i have been there done that already in respects to little kid parenting. if i doted over his every whimper id have a terror on my hands. nuh uh.

so basically f*** off stupid people who want to parent my children from afar. shut up or i will shut you up. no problem. learning how to shut your mouth will benefit you greatly.

because of what i look like. not how i treat my children. big difference.

no need for self reflection. i am an excellent mother.

OP, I mean no offense, because I really like you from what I've seen on SC. But please, hear me out. You're an excellent mother according to your opinion (I don't know because I don't know you. But, I also don't doubt it either, since you have proven to me you'd do anything for your children).

If you're an excellent mother, why do you care about others making judgements or assumptions about you and your parenting style. It seems to me you know you're an excellent mother for your own books. Isn't that all you need?

Did the woman at Value Village do something else OP? Because I can't see how her calling your boy an effing re***d can be considered parenting from afar. I'm no Psychologist, but I don't think calling a child that is called parenting.

[krysta lynne]

OP, I mean no offense, because I really like you from what I've seen on SC. But please, hear me out. You're an excellent mother according to your opinion (I don't know because I don't know you. But, I also don't doubt it either, since you have proven to me you'd do anything for your children).

If you're an excellent mother, why do you care about others making judgements or assumptions about you and your parenting style. It seems to me you know you're an excellent mother for your own books. Isn't that all you need?

i don't care about others judgements or statements about me personally. but i in no way and going to back down and let people say i did the wrong thing in this situation.

i dont really have much else to say about it.