After 19 years of marriage, husband discovers wife was once a man...

[vesper]

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worl...-19-years.html

A Belgian is seeking to have his marriage annulled after discovering that his Indonesian wife of 19 years had been born a man.


Jan, 64, said that he and his wife had decided not to have children because he had two by his previous marriage and she fooled him by pretending to menstruate, using sanitary towels, "to conceal the truth".

[Natalka]

Well, kudos to her surgeon, I guess...

[lighthousejen]

Wow forget the credit check, can I have your medical history!!!

[snuffaluffagus]

If her husband of 19 years had no clue, she could have been born intersexed and then chose one later on in life...we can't really tell from the story.

I'm not surprised by the article but what I did find funny..."...Monica, 48... began to wear very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops, so her abdomen was completely exposed..." Makes me think of my father's second wife and that was quite a sight, lol.

[saveadollardiva]

Geeze...even when your married I guess you truly don't know a person lol...I feel bad for the guy though....

[VeeVee]

I find it hard to believe he had no clue...even during intercourse...like come on? lol

[snuffaluffagus]

I find it hard to believe he had no clue...even during intercourse...like come on? lol

That's why intersexuality came to mind. It's not as uncommon as we think but, it's not something you'll hear people frequently speak of. Years ago, I met a surrogate mother who was carrying a baby for a couple who wasn't able to conceive. When the wife was in her late teen/early adulthood, it was discovered that while she appeared, in every sense, a female, internally, she had the organs of a male. Imagine the shock and confusion for her when she found out . Unlike the article, it was a happy ending in that case though.

[VeeVee]

That's why intersexuality came to mind. It's not as uncommon as we think but, it's not something you'll hear people frequently speak of. Years ago, I met a surrogate mother who was carrying a baby for a couple who wasn't able to conceive. When the wife was in her late teen/early adulthood, it was discovered that while she appeared, in every sense, a female, internally, she had the organs of a male. Imagine the shock and confusion for her when she found out . Unlike the article, it was a happy ending in that case though.

Oh My! I've never heard of that...glad it had a happy outcome!

[glenglen]

Weird,the saying what you don't won't hurt you comes to mind.

[snuffaluffagus]

There can be lots of variations of intersexuality. Some people can be born with the genitalia of both sexes as well (which is what I was thinking of in the case of the wife in the article). Often parents and doctors decide to assign one sex to the infant and surgery is done early on in life. A topic for another discussion but, I find it rather sad that they feel a decision has to be made...I think it should be left up to the child themselves when they are older if they even decide to have surgery at all *shrug*.

[vesper]

Moral of the story..... inspect a little closer!

[RebeccaRYoung]

I just don't see what the big deal is. It's awfully sad to end a marriage because of this. You must not love your spouse as much as you think.

[danip467]

I just don't see what the big deal is. It's awfully sad to end a marriage because of this. You must not love your spouse as much as you think.

Sounds like there was more going on than just that. Seems like he thought she was stepping out on him anyway. Sometimes an event like this is just the break caused by the final straw.

[DaveP]

Sounds like there was more going on than just that. Seems like he thought she was stepping out on him anyway. Sometimes an event like this is just the break caused by the final straw.

Lying to your spouse for 19 years is a biggie too.