Ladies~~ I need your opinions....

[scbpooh]

So I just received a facebook to invite for a bridal shower for a bride i barely know... OK I gotta explain a little bit!

Hubby and Curtis have been friends since elementary school. Both my MIL and Curtis's mom are bff's. I personal love Curtis's mom but I cant stand to be around Curtis himself. I think he's a selfish self centered you know what and doesnt understand life for those of us who have kids!!!! Well I just received a bridal shower invite from Curtis's mom. I have only ever met the bride once in the couple years they have been together.

I talked to my SIL who also got the invite and she said ''unless something comes up of course im going, theyre practically family''. I should mention my BIL is also really good friends with Curtis as well.

So my question is, even though I really dont know the bride, do i go? Would it be wrong of me not to go? Should i feel obligated to go??

I really have no idea!!!!

[Patty Smyth]

Sometimes people invites hoards just to get the gifts. If I did not know the bride then I would not go.

I guess it also depends on how close your DH is to him still. Are they occasional buddies or do they get together a lot?

If you want I guess you could send a small gift. A bag of diapers or something.

[scbpooh]

Hubby and his friend try to get together about once a month or so...

[angel_2011]

Sometimes people invites hoards just to get the gifts. If I did not know the bride then I would not go.

I guess it also depends on how close your DH is to him still. Are they occasional buddies or do they get together a lot?

If you want I guess you could send a small gift. A bag of diapers or something.

pssst Patty.... it's a bridal shower
unless the bride is knocked up then yea, diapers is great, lol

[angel_2011]

i don't think u HAVE to attend, since u don't really know the bride... however, seeing that ur in-laws are going, if u think ur gonna have a good time, go for it.... otherwise, don't bother.

[scbpooh]

I have a bad feeling that Im going to be made to be obligated to go by my MIL..... but we'll see.

[angel_2011]

ah, MILs... aren't they our favourite?! lol

well, u could get a migraine on that day, or come down with something "contagious"

[Patty Smyth]

pssst Patty.... it's a bridal shower
unless the bride is knocked up then yea, diapers is great, lol

Why did I have baby in my head

[Patty Smyth]

Ok bridal shower, can you get lost in the crowd

[bargain_hunter_lola]

Personally I'd feel obligated. Even if you don't like the guy, your DH does and he does seem to be close to your extended family. Besides it's not like you won't know anyone there (I'm guessing you're on decent terms with your SIL and MIL?). It wouldn't hurt to show up for a bit (even just to make an appearance) and bring a small gift. Who knows, you may have a great time and really like the bride.

But at the end of the day it depends on how you feel. If you really don't want to go, then don't.

[BlazingDriver]

Looks like you feel obligated to go. I would enjoy myself as much as possible, but under the circumstances I wouldn't exactly splurge on the gift. I hear Liquidation World is having going out of business sales.

[lilo0003]

I would go, you never know she may be far nicer than he is and it would help put up with him if you like his wife. No only that with your couponing skills you can pull off a rockin gift.

[xlxo]

I hope this bride know what she is doing.

With semi-strangers, I hope it does not become one of those facebook/twitter teen parties where the home is trashed, contents stolen, and police are called when hundreds show up at the door looking for food and liquor. Won't she be surprised!

[Lynn49]

You go.
It seems a tidy little group, and there's no reason to ostracise yourself from it. There will be get-togethers from here on in, I'm guessing, and starting off on the wrong foot will do you no good. You'll be "the one", "her" who didn't attend the shower. Put on your big girl panties and smile. The gal might be an absolute darling, and you may actually like her! You've been invited because you're the wife if her fiance's good friend...you may be seeing each other from now on in your circle of friends, like it or not. Smile pretty and be generous with your time....you may even enjoy it!

[saddlebag]

It's easy....if you don't want to go....then don't go....don't let yourself be guilted into these things...