2025-07 July Frugal Thread

[cath007]

Thank you for yours comments @flemeth and @SassyAshley.

I am agree.Smart Canucks is a great forum and we do are here for each others in the good and the bad time.I feel it.

We know each others since a good fews years online.

I guess life seems --- is more easy ----sometime for others persons than me but that ok.

Maybe they are better with their anxiety than me??? And able to do things..

[cath007]

@HermanH : Thank you for starting the July thread Fruggal Chatter.

[coupon girl]

Cath ,one day at a time ,we are here to listen .

I deal with anxiety ,as does my son .Sometimes it gets pretty high ,i am on low doe meds.
Two weeks ago i cried as my oldest granddaughter went to the store with a friend ,but ended up at the library .She will be 12 in the fall.My mind went elsewhere ,my son is putting her on a used phone and an extra 20 a month for him .For piece of mind .

So i am opening up here too and i dont usually.Dealing with young grandkids in your 60's can be challenging ,like yesterday we took them to Adventure village and paid for it $100 not cheap but they played lazer tag ,bumper cars and jumping brace trampoline .
Then we went to Hutches for good chips and lunch .They had a 8.50 seniors menu same as kids ,so it was nice to see seniors on the menu .Well the kids went into the lake and got wet .They sat eating lunch wet and i know they can just be kids but they complained the whole time .

I will have had Sebastian since tuesday night and he always wants to be on the go .Friday we have all 3 kids at my sons for the day .I love my grandkids but it can be tiring a bit.Then my ex son-in-law will pick up Sebastian for a trip up north,Sat morning .

I dont have time to go grocery shopping yet so will use up what we have .

Next monday i am treating a girlfriend to lunch for her birthday ,its the little thing in life to look forward too .

[Frugalbigmama]

@Cathy - I am an email or phone call away if you need to talk. Send me a message if you need my contact info.

[Frugalbigmama]

Happy Thursday! Such a weird week! I am so messed up as to what day it is.

DS son took my vehicle to work today (and yesterday) I could have dropped him off at the job site but I don't really need it during the day and he will be home around 4pm. Hopefully the shop can look at his car today and it is a cheap fix (he towed it on Monday as it wasn't running well and he didn't have time to look at it since he is working all week) (He used my car last night to meet his friends at the tennis court.- I trust this kid with my car lol)

Still working on my to do list from yesterday. Aiming to have everything checked off it by noon today. Hopefully the zoom meeting I have this morning doesn't take to long.

My office felt stuffy so I just opened the window and the nice cool air is flowing in! So nice after that muggy hot weather we just had.

I have been looking at the small hampers at Dollarama for months....Finally decided I need one now so will pick that up later today.

The new grocery flyers start today... Food Basics has good sales on fresh stuff. Think I will wait till Monday/Tuesday to shop for that since we have still have stuff to use up. I may go tonight and see if I can grab a few roasts for the freezer. I like having those stocked up for Fall/winter.

Coffee will hopefully kick in and then I can get all the things done! Didn't eat much for dinner last night so I am feeling extra hungry this morning!!!
Egg on a toasted English muffin will most likely be the plan! Then wash up the dishes for a clean kitchen.

Have a great day!

[SassyAshley]

@cath007 , **HUGS**

As coupon girl said we can only take it one day at a time.

Everyone handles things differently and just because you have anxiety and I have anxiety does not mean we are the same. Everyone has different triggers, anxiety affects us all differently and we all deal with it differently. I feel that people do not get this.

I appreciate being able to come on here and being somewhat anonymous. In my day-to-day life I deal with a lot of feelings and honestly feel unseen a lot and that my feelings are not valid. It is so easy to judge or look at someone and think you know them but deep down do we really know.

I am known as the one who takes care of everyone and has it all together, is 15-steps ahead, always has a plan, always has a smile on face and am always there to help. I love that people think that but I can admit sometimes I am faking it and honestly it is exhausting. Sometimes I just want/need someone to listen and I will be honest, I don't have that, even those who are the closest to me don't get it. We all have our own perspective and it is can be hard to see someone else's perspective.

This is why I try to open up more so if anyone else feels the way I do, they know they aren't alone because honestly as much as there are always people around me so often I feel alone and unseen.

[SassyAshley]

Good Morning Everyone,
Let me just say, life is adulting and adulting hard over here.

We had to have Mom's car towed last week, it is fixed and we need to pick it up today. Good news easier fix than we thought so that is good. Still need to take it do a different shop to have them address a different issue.

Yesterday's plans did not go as planned. I was washing my sheets, I had the second load in and heard a noise from the basement, almost sounded like something fell. Nope it was my washing machine, the drum is not spinning correctly.

Not going to lie, it all went downhill after that, when things like this happen my stomach flips, and yesterday I also got a huge tension headache. I called the repair guy he cannot come until next week and every spot he has available I am in meetings. So that is on the backburner for the moment.

I tried to discuss it with Mom which did not work, she just told me to calm down which never really helps. Even last night I was questioning do we call the repair guy back or do we replace it, it is over 10 years old and I have wanted to replace it for awhile but our house is holding me back. Because getting it in the house won't be easy and I am afraid they will deem it a hard delivery and put it into the basement for me. Instead of discussing this Mom just keeps saying "well we would just have to figure it out," that does not work for me, I need to talk it out, I need a plan.

Also, and I know it is on me as well, it is the fact that nothing can be easy. If our house wasn't complete chaos and bursting at the seams because we have 2.5 households worth of stuff in this house I could just order a washer. This drives me insane it just feels like with everything there are 39 things I have to do before I can do the thing I need to do.

I spent most of the day spinning trying to figure out how I can change my schedule to meet the repair guy but what if it can't be fixed how long will it take to get a new one. Am I letting everyone down because now I am trying to change my work schedule but if I don't we don't have a washer and can't do laundry. I just feel like I am coming up short and no matter what I do I am letting someone down.

I know this is adulting but also, it is hard when someone else is involved. I get it but now Mom is frustrated because she can't do more. I don't want the repair guy coming well she is home because she can't do the basement stairs and I don't want her to try.

I am still not feeling better today but we are pushing through, I got tons of work to get done, we have to get Mom's car, I should probably grab some groceries, it is never ending but I have got this, one thing at a time.

Happy Thursday Everyone.

[cath007]

A big thank you to you all.
Yesterday,I filled the Sample Source e-mail survey.
I did not do it the years before.
It was pretty easy to responds and fill.
I think it will change nothing if you have more chance to be choosen for the next Sample Source tough.
No VIP offers e-mails since a while...


Have a great day all!!!!

[coupon girl]

Afternoon took our grandson to flying squirell and he got in free with his report card reg $22 for an hour. But the power went out after we were there for 20 minutes ,so they wrote down our name/number and we will get a free turn again at some point.

Got a 1.00 vanilla cone on the way home at McDonalds from the app. nice and cool

[barbis9]

I make the choice to close my smart canucks account.
Nothing will never change in my life,only getting worse day after day.
My posts are always depressing and you dont deserve that. @Ciel21 was a truly online friend.
And I am in pain because i deeply know she is dead.

@Ciel21 has been a long time member, I recall her signing off under a different name years ago as she thought her time was coming (I cried at that time), then she came back as ciel21. I know her health was declining and if she has passed, I will truly miss her posts, as they were extremely helpful, always so positive.

[walkonby]

@SassyAshley just reading over the post you made regarding possibly ordering a new washing machine struck a nerve with me too.
It took weeks and a few weekends to PURGE " things " and get so many items to donation or taken to the dump. But I had cooperation from DH.
I can see how challenging it is for you to take steps to declutter since your Mom seems to want to save everything " in case" one day she'll use it.
Being between a rock and a hard place makes any progress impossible. Hopefully the repair guy can fix the washer....on his own timetable that is.
Best of luck my dear!!

[lilo0003]

@cath007 sometimes strangers on internet can be the safest place for you, at least here in this group. It’s not easy dealing with all you have going on and struggling financially is just such a heavy burden.
We are back in Ontario and as Ashley says adulthood is hard. My vehicle is 11 years old and I am not ready to replace it and it needs to go to the garage again. I don’t have a vehicle in NS so I have work around my husband so I like it when I am here and can drive wherever I want. I am sure the long periods of sitting are not helpful. Oh well at least I get to enjoy the cheaper groceries for the next 4 weeks.

[coupon girl]

Yes adulting is hard ,one you pay for one thing another may pop up.

Sassy i hear you when my dear mom lived with us for 6 and a half years her bedroom had a lot of stuff ,knick nacs etcI tried to help her but her reply was you have a whole house i need this stuff i only have one bedroom -plus some stuff down the basement.

Sassy my washer is 11 or 12 years old and makes a sound (hubby said it is the rotors )it has a bit of rust on the lid .So when it goes i will get a new washer .

Boy my grandson loves milk and food -haha he is a growing boy .He misses his mom and dad a bit ,he calls them nightly except last night my daughter was out for a work event .When he leaves on sat then i will get groceries at some point this weekend or tuesday .

Going out with a girlfriend on monday for lunch i will treat as its her birthday .

Lilo are groceries that much cheaper in ontario ,cause i cant get over the price of coffee dreading when my 3 containers downstairs i paid 10.99 for go as now they are 18.99 to 20.99.

Everyone have a great day .

[harbie]

Adulting is hard, I just said that to my mom yesterday. Actually I think I said adulting sucks but basically the same thing.

@cath007 I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all that. I too have anxiety which is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I’ve never had it but getting a double whammy of the pandemic and what turned out to be perimenopause I was hit like a truck with anxiety. While I don’t just tell random people I do try to be open about it. I would have attacks so bad that Dh would have to cancel my work for me and stay home with me. He ended up almost taking me to the ER during an attack! I’ve learned that talking about it helps me and if one person doesn’t feel alone or broken because they have it then it’s worth it.

Please don’t feel like you can’t be here on SC. You need to have a space or place to talk things out. Just know that we all understand to some degree or another with what you’re feeling so you’re not alone. At the same time you need to do what right for you. Even if that means taking a step back and taking a deep breath before returning here then that’s ok too. I think everyone is here to listen.

[Frugalbigmama]

TGIF! For a short week it sure hung in there!

We picked up DS's car last night (it was a minor fix!) so I have my wheels today. Will pop out to No Frills this morning to pick up a few things (romaine!)

The laundry I washed and hung to dry Wednesday will be put away today. Few dishes in the sink I will wash up this morning and then give the fridge a good wipe down. There is half a piece of chicken breast that I will chop up and toss in the freezer. Will chop up some onions and peppers for the freezer too so they won't be wasted (and ready for quick use) Making a few ice packs for the freezer so they are ready when needed.

Looks like the next few days will be hot hot! Will go kayaking early am tomorrow I think. Make a thermos of coffee to enjoy on the water.
DS's band is hosting their annual home town show Saturday night. Balcony seats are a must for this crazy event Sunday is a free day!

Have a wonderful weekend.