Meet the parents

[Tiki]

I talked to my DH and neither of us remember the first meeting with my parents... Dh says it must have been uneventful.... His mom works in the Garden center at a major Grocery chain, he wanted to stop in and say hi... I was very shy, and she was asking me all these questions! Now we get along great, and I'm close with his family and hes close with mine... I was actually more scared about meeting his sister since he said she was very outspoken.. Turns out shes really nice even though I was terrified of her...

[travel-mum]

I was 16 the first time I met my future in-laws, as well as the whole rest of the family. I was very tiny back then, and I'm still less than 5 feet tall. I was in a major car accident that summer, and was in traction for a couple of months. My lack of interest in the hospital food meant that I lost weight too. By the time I met my future in-laws I only weighed about 80 lbs. I was so small, my future brother-in-laws thought they could throw me around. Sure enough one picked me up and threw me to the other. He tried to throw me back but the first one missed. I landed on my knees, and had bruises on my knees for two weeks after that. I was very shy back then, and didn't say much about it, but it sure was an ice-breaker! My in-laws themselves were very nice. My father-in-law told me later on that he was afraid to breath too hard around me, because I was so small he thought he would blow me away!

[ergo2]

my parents were already "gone" when i met my wife , but when i met her mom.....well , she was not very nice. still is not to this day.

where is that bolt of lightning when you need it

[Littlemoe0]

The hubby and his whole entire family (between 60 and 70) and all live in and around the same town and have known them since I was 9. His mother would take pictures of us dancing years before we ever started dating and say, oh aren't they cute. I think they were happy to see him date someone they knew. We live in a small community, so they had known or heard anything about me anyways. My Mom was already in a nursing home when we started dating, and I remember her looking at my hubby with a strange look on her face, and then understood why, she knew his whole family as well, and with her ahzteimer's thought I was dating his dad. They sound exactly the same, and other then one having grey hair, I could see why she misunderstood. But she did figure it out.

[karalin9]

Oh man... This is a good one!

My bf and I had been dating for a few months, and he usually stayed over night on the weekends. I live a couple hours away from my parents, so our visits are usually scheduled. One Saturday morning, my room mate came home and left the door unlocked, a few mins. later I hear my Dad!!!! My dad and my brother had come to the city for a hockey game and had some time to spare, so they figured they'd stop by and give me a ride to work! I came flying out of my bedroom, all nervous, then the bf came out a few mins. later. My Dad never said anything, but I'm sure that's not how he wanted to meet his future son in law for the first time!

[Natalka]

We all met on the same day! I was at church Sunday morning, singing in the choir - and noticed in the congregation a dark haired man, long grey coat (it was winter) - a 'new' person is obvious, small number of parishioners. Asked my mom if she knew who he was, she didn't - but by the time word went through the ladies in the choir, it came back to me that he was the brother of our parish priest, visiting him from a nearby city. When we went down from the choir loft to communion, walking back, I snuck a peek, and wow!
Now my dad was the Deacon at the church, and frequently mom and him would have the priest over for lunch after the service. So they did on that day, and invited the brother.
Well, big kudos in his favour because he is fluent in Ukrainian (duh, I'm not), so the four of them did a lot of talking in that language.
I don't remember any talk specifically at lunch, but afterwards the men went to the living room, mom and I were in the kitchen (yeah, it's all sexist...) - and she - my VERY conservative mother - 'dared' me to ask him out. (I was at that time dating a man, but he was in Italy going to university..) Well, my mom had never done something like that, so I went into the living room and just asked him outright if he wanted to go see a movie that night. He said 'Sure!" (what else was he supposed to say with my dad and his bro there?). So we did, went to a movie and out for a snack.
Now there's a way longer story than all this (I had to get rid of the bf, I moved away, the new dude moved TO my hometown just as I moved away- my dad passed away that next yea), but my mom and siblings just love George as close family, right from the start!
I didn't get to meet my FIL til just before our wedding - he and a SIL came from Europe for the wedding. Language barrier, but I could feel the love! He was a priest, and MIL was ill, so couldn't make the trip. He died several years later, and then MIL did come to Canada, so I got to meet her that once, and she got to meet our son!
(...Geez, I get so long-winded, sorry! )

[caitfoster]

My mum has met a few really important people in my life. And when I left the first she swore she wouldn't get attached to another bf of mine. Then the ex came along, and she loved him so much, but I left him five years later. Again, she said she would never love another son in law since it hurts for her to not see them again. And now my new DH...my mum loves him, I am sure in part because he has produced in part a grandchild for her. lol

[YesI'mcheap]

My husband meet my parents my mom hand him that this list 10 rules for dating my daughter, ANd the I was in the military and have have 80 acres of land and shovel and know how a body was circled in red. It was funny when I said she was in the army and my god mother has land. He when white. Everyone laughing when he realized a joke.
That being said, it didn't go well with the inlaws for me. My In-laws are Hungarian baptist (a very fundamental baptist branch). It was right before Christmas and my Husband took me home to visit his parents. His mom asked what church I went to. I said I don't go to church, ( the look on her face), I said I go to temple ( she almost fainted). I told her I was Jewish. All she could say was oh. She processed to tell me that Jesus was the way to Heaven. I said yeah, I was a christian but now I a Jew. It went down hill from there. It still is going down hill and that was 1999.

[I.am.a.cliche]

I was worried to introduce my now husband to my parents because of the age difference (I was 20 he was almost 32). My mom was polite and made small talk but my dad (who looks like a tough biker but wouldn't hurt a fly) casually mentions his "stint in jail for messin' up a guy that hurt one of his daughters". Needless to say, my DH was quite uncomfortable but my dad had a fun time watching him squirm.

The first time I met my DH's parents was after we were already engaged and it was a little awkward since they only speak french and I only speak english so DH had to translate everything. To this day I haven't had a real conversation with them which is quite sad. I should really learn french.

[ame555]

My parents were fine, but my Grandmother who barely speaks English and was starting dementia at the time was living with my parents....he must have been asked atleast 100 times "where you sleep tonight?" -- to make sure it wouldn't be in my room and kept trying to get him to get her a glass a wine (she wasn't suppoed to be drinking!
Needless to say I was so stressed about all of it and he handled it all so well...I think I knew he was the one!

[Toronto]

Seems like we're only getting the women's perspective here. It's possible that it's more nerve wracking (sp?) for women to introduce their b/f's to their parents.

For me, it wasn't that bad. I was 16, and dating the top student in our grade. she was cute, polite, and smart. All the things a parent could want. My next g/f however was a bit different. She was really nice, but my mom seemed weary of her. As my mom put it "her eyes are too seductive". It didn't bother me any though. :D

[Jacq]

The first time my boyfriend (DBF?) met my mum was when she came to the airport with me to pick him up. It was a little awkward, but not so bad. Mum loves him so much now. It's great.

When I met HIS parents (earlier that year) it was really nerve wracking. They live in Nelson, New Zealand, so we stayed at their house a couple of days before going on a week-long hike in Abel Tasman. They are incredibly nice, smart, and fun people, but very... I guess "proper" is the right word for it. I tried so hard those few days, but then after the tramp they picked us up and tooke us back home. I was so sweaty and stinky and tired I fell asleep in their car. While they were talking to me! D:
They never said anything, but they never would. I still have no idea if they like me or not.

[ypang07]

Nothing went wrong. All smooth!

[TooCouponCrazy]

Loved reading your stories.

Nothing went wrong really. My DHs parents are absolutely lovely people.

[ninna]

wowee. Isn't this resurrecting an oldie but a goodie?!!

On a side note, I've just realized that it's been eons since I've seen Littlemoe0 post on here. Hope everything is ok with her.

My mother LOVED DH when she first met him but that was because we were snowed in at the university and he was working part time after school as security and he opened up the kitchen and made her a hot cup of tea.

Unfortunately, that was the peak of the affection and it was all downhill (quite rapidly) from there. Too long a story for this forum but thanks for the smile I got being reminded of that night.