Christmas In July Package Train!!! Read Post 3242!!! (pg 217)

[NickiB]

I had a rough pregnancy, I was sick the whole time, ended up with gestational diabetes, and at the end had high blood pressure and had to be induced. It was stressful too, at my first ultrasound they noticed "abnormalities" which meant I had to go for a really long ultrasound. There was a two vessel umbilical cord (there should be 3 blood vessels in there - two meant he might be small) and a spot on his heart (which cleared up before he was born) but it sure made things intense! Especially going through it all pretty much on my own. Then my dog ran away while we were at the dog park and he found his way home after 11 days but that was hard on me since I was an emotional wreck. In the end, he is totally worth it of course (baby not dog lmao) and I know things to do better before I try again, but since the clock is ticking, well it's not likely, but I find it so hard to totally give up the dream!

And Julsie - my friend had similar issues to you with her first, and back labour (no c-section) but she ended up leaving work really early and taking a long mat leave (unpaid 6 months at the end I think it was) and she now has her second, she said it was easier, partly because she knew what to expect, and she took better care of herself.

Oh, and another friend had her first at 39, and second 18 months later!! I think she's nuts lol, they are so close in age, but since she had hit 40 she was in a hurry. Just to say, some women have no problems even older, though some do at 30! So no guarantees in anything.

Gwen thanks for posting this! I'm 40 with no kids, but do want them. I had a miscarriage 6yrs ago when I was still married, and didn't know if I would ever have kids. I've been with my BF now for almost 3yrs.. ready to move forward, but because he is Christian, he would want to be married first. I'm thinking it would be atleast a year before all that happens and I could try for a baby, which just seems so old. Plus, I'm RH negative, and with the miscarriage, they weren't entirely sure they caught me in time to avoid having that antibody thing. So, I pretty much have given up hope of my own kids.. until now.. I like that you said you never know.. right?

With all these "only" child stories I have to share my amazing story on my 3 kids!!!! ( its a little long but its quite the ordeal!! )


My kids are 10, 3 and almost 2. I'm sure you notice the HUGE gap between child one and the other 2. I had my first child Madison in 2003. With Madison, I anxiously awaited and counted down the 40 weeks! Well week 40 came, then week 41 and 2 days away from 42 weeks I was sent to be induced. I was brought in and given the progesterone gel internally to soften my cervix. Well turns out I was allergic to the chemical and quickly began to burn "down there", and the doctor had to come in a SCRAPE it out using tongue depressors!! UNPLEASANT to say the least, but the burning went away once it was gone and it was treated and that was that. My cervix was not dilating at all, I was at about 2 cm for the 5 hours I was there so was hooked up to "the drip" and shortly after this my water broke and I expected to see a baby any time!! Contractions started almost instantly after my water broke and I was given an epidural. Despite having contraction after contraction Miss Madison was just to warm and cozy to want to budge! 24 hours of continuous contractions later and still nothing. The doctors said "sometimes this happens" and despite at this point me asking if a c-section would be a better idea, the doctors insisted that if would be easier for me to heal if I went with natural. Finally 40 HOURS after my water was broke and 40 hours of no sleep due to constant contractions my daughter began distressing and the doctor told me they had to give me an emergency c-section. But get this!!! The doctors had already delivered 8 babies that night, and the doctors words to me were "We need to get the baby out, we need to do an emergency c-section. Our team is exhausted though, so we are going to go have a quick coffee break and will begin as soon as we get back" !!!!! I'm not exactly a genius, but doesn't emergency mean like NOW!?!? They gave me a laughing gas mask while they went for coffee and then my c-section began! Within the hour I had my beautiful 9 pound 3 oz daughter!!! Happiest little baby you would ever see, I'm sure she smiled at me when I saw her for the first time!

So then comes recovery. I was in a room with 4 other post OP c-section moms who all delivered that same night. The following evening, the other ladies were up walking around and holding their babies. I could barely move! I told them I was in a lot of pain, they said "its normal, you just need to get up moving around" there was no way I could, I was just in too much pain. My tummy was swollen even bigger than it was when I was pregnant and there were water blisters outside my incision. Again, I was told this was normal. A foul odour was coming from my tummy, at one point a cleaning lady walking down the hall came into my room and asked if I needed the garbage changed by my bed because she thought there was rotting food in it!

Again, I was told this is normal and that basically I was being a "baby" about it. My dad and BF were there 99% of the time, because I was in too much pain to even feed Madison, I would have to get them to pass her to me to breast feed and could basically just lay there. On day 2 after delivery, my dad and BF left to go home for a little while, to get cleaned up and one of the nurses came in and scolded me for not getting out of bed. She grabbed me by the legs and whipped them out of bed and yelled at me to "get up!" I began to cry from the pain and she rolled her eyes at me went over to Madison in the pram and began to roll her away as she said "Well if you want to see your baby you will have to get out of bed and come to the nursery and get her" all I could do was cry. Shortly after my dad and BF showed up, went and got Madison and my dad even had choice words for the nurse. On day 3 I was able to move, but barely. I was told to go shower. They wouldnt get me a wheel chair and I had to walk all the way to the end of the hall, propped by my family, but crying in pain the whole way. I showered and was asked to get on the scales for the records and I was 27 pounds HEAVIER than the day before I gave birth ( at 42 weeks pregnant!!! ) Again, told it was normal to retain fluids after birth. Day 4 I was discharged from the hospital, even though I was swollen, red and was discharging a dark almost black foul discharge.

I went home, just happy to have my baby in the room I waited so long to see her in. We lived in Winnipeg at the time. It was July 16th, it was 36 degrees with the humidity and I curled up in bed, covered up in a feather duvet, shivering cold.

The next day the public health nurse came, I didn't want to see her, she checked out Madison, all was well, I was so scared after the nurse at the hospital being so rough with me that I just wanted to be alone. My family told her I that I was cold and sick and she said maybe a trip to the ER would be a good idea. I still didn't want to see her, she left and I became very sick. My Bf pulled back my dressing on my incision. My tummy was black. Not dark, not bruised. It was black. Like rotten flesh.

I went into the emergency room. I described it to triage nurse my incision and was sent to the waiting room, thats where I spent the next 3 hours. Once I was finally in the emergency department I was laid on a bed and 2 residents came in to look at my incision. They said "hrmmm..... looks like a superficial infection" she grabbed a pair of tweezers to check the elastisicity of my skin and a chunk of deadflesh the size of an orange came off in the tweezers, still she went to get "ointment" to treat it.

While they were gone an infectious disease specialist happened down the hall on another case. Passed my room and then quickly rushed in. He looked at me and asked if he could see my wound. I said yes, he looked and rushed out to get my doctor. My doctor looked at it and a look came on her face, she took out a staple and I could feel something running down my sides, I could hear it dripping on the floor, my tummy was deflating before my eyes!! All Puss!!! The next thing I hear is "CODE ___ emergency department" ( forget the code ) and before I knew it I was being swarmed by doctors, nurses I was signing documents and being rolled into the OR!!! I HAD FLESH EATING DISEASE!!!!!!!

After 8 hours of surgery, I was rolled into recovery. When I opened my eyes I was told I would be ok, I lost nearly half of my uterus to flesh eating disease. My uterus had partially liquified, they saved what they could, but told me, it's very likely you wont be able to have other kids, but at least you have 1 healthy child. When I got back to my room, I knew I was in bad shape, my mom, who was In Newfoundland, who couldn't even get off work to come up for Madison's birth was sitting there. I was in intensive care. I was riddled with disease. I didn't feel right, the doctor came into to see my tummy and I was terrified by what I saw!!! There was no stitches, there were no staples! My tummy was gone! All that was left was a giant gaping hole, you could see my insides, hip to hip!!! They packed it with kerlex and a "bleach" solution that was used to kill any more disease that was left. I couldn't be closed up because if I was, the disease would take over again, I had to heal from the inside out. I was left like this for weeks and weeks.

( the above part was featured in a 2 part mini-series with Bridget Wiese on A-Channel )

To try to sum this part up, I spent months in the hospital and was finally sealed back up and sent home finally in good health.

Months later, and I still wasn't having a period. This was a good sign that I wouldn't be able to have other children, but I was happy with my health again and the Daughter I had. I went on a treatment of hormones and still no luck with getting a cycle back. Given up on ever having more kids.

So fast forward 6 years later!!!!

I was at the gym taking a kick boxing class. On one of the moves, I felt a sharp pain in my side. It hurt quite a bit, but figured it was just a muscle. The next morning I woke up to go to the bathroom to pee and when I wiped there was blood, SOOOO much blood! Soaked through the tissue, running down my arm! I thought "IM DYING" I call my husband and rush to the hospital where I am taken straight inside.

The doctor came in to talk to me and his first comment was "It appears your having a miscarriage" I looked at him confused and said "no, I can't be miscarrying, I can't have kids" he had be do a urinalysis and it showed pregnant which again brought him to the conclusion I was miscarrying. Let me tell you, I have never had an emotional roller coaster like that EVERY in my life. Within 1 minute I went from knowing I couldn't have kids, to being told I could, to being told I WAS pregnant, to being told I was loosing the baby. It was more than I could take. My husband was still in the waiting room, as I was rushed in so quick and I was literally in shock from this news.

I was told I would have an ultrasound, to see if there was "anything left" behind to see if I would need a D&C. I went into ultrasound and laid on the bed and the lady began to look at my belly with her tools. She looked away, smiling and humming. I'm laying there thinking "what a rude and inconsiderate b***h" Im laying here loosing a child and shes smiling?!?!?! So I ask her after a few minutes "is there anything left" to which she looks up for a second and said "yes, but I just need to do some measurements then you can see" and again, confused I was asking myself "why would I want to see this?!?!?!" and I just laid there sad and confused.

She then asked "is your husband here?" and I said yes, she asked his name and said "I'll go get him" so yet again Im confused as to why he would want to see, but happy he would be there with me. So she comes back with him, and he can see the screen before me and his jaw drops. There was a baby inside me!!!! A live and very healthy baby!!!!! It was Mason and I was just over 8 weeks pregnant!! I had no idea I was pregnant since I wasn't having a period! So it turns out the bleeding was from scar tissue that ripped away as my uterus ( HALF A UTERUS!!! ) grew! They controled the bleeding and I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and c-section!! I began to have normal peorids after Mason was born and a year later I was pregnant again!!!

I Know this is REALLLLY long, but I wanted to share! I understand if its to long to read!! lol

OM Goodness Jenny, I can't even imagine. I know being forced to sit in a waiting room for 7hrs while I was having a miscarriage because the bleeding "wasn't severe enough" really plays havoc with your mind. I honestly don't know how you kept sane through all this, but so glad you were able to add to your family. And your daughter is beautiful!

[gwennad]

Gwen thanks for posting this! I'm 40 with no kids, but do want them. I had a miscarriage 6yrs ago when I was still married, and didn't know if I would ever have kids. I've been with my BF now for almost 3yrs.. ready to move forward, but because he is Christian, he would want to be married first. I'm thinking it would be atleast a year before all that happens and I could try for a baby, which just seems so old. Plus, I'm RH negative, and with the miscarriage, they weren't entirely sure they caught me in time to avoid having that antibody thing. So, I pretty much have given up hope of my own kids.. until now.. I like that you said you never know.. right?

OM Goodness Jenny, I can't even imagine. I know being forced to sit in a waiting room for 7hrs while I was having a miscarriage because the bleeding "wasn't severe enough" really plays havoc with your mind. I honestly don't know how you kept sane through all this, but so glad you were able to add to your family. And your daughter is beautiful!

I'd honestly say, go get tested, it's really simple blood work to at least give you an idea, and depending on the results there are things you can do to improve your odds. Never give up hope! So many of the single mom blogs I follow had their first at 40 or older, and some are having a second now. That goes for anyone do your research. And there is a book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, it has so much information in it.

I had a miscarriage at 32, I was basically sent home to let it happen naturally, and it was my birthday. Two years later I got my boy I never thought I could do it on my own but I knew I had to try.

[Jezebel]

due to health reason I am never going to be able to have my own kids but that is ok as there is a big gap between my siblings (we are all adopted, they are biological siblings) and I helped raise them so yeah I am good without having my own kids

wow you guys have such touching stories my heart goes out to all of you <3

[SassyAshley]

Oh my that is horrible Jenny.

Not to distract from your story but this is where I have an issue with our health system. I met my guy online an shortly after we started talking (a week to 2) he was in a serious car accident and injured his leg, had to have surgery and it was put in a cast. He keep saying something isn't right it feel wet in my cast it doesn't feel right. He had never broken a bone before so never had a cast and the doctors keep saying oh no no this is normal you have just never had a cast before. Finally after multiple doctors visit the doctor "to make him happy" cut into the cast where is was discovered he has a massive infection the whole inside of the cast was was soaked and falling apart from the infection, not to mention the affect on his leg. He had a massive infection which could have lead to him losing his leg thankfully he did not. But he battled that infection for months I believe and all because a doctor would not listen to him.

Sad thing is even now he has problems getting doctors to listen to him, he had cancer before I knew him and they blame everything on that and his weakened immune system. Twice now he has had to have surgery for internal issues they were saying was the flu and blaming his weakened immune system the most recent was just a few weeks ago. He was told he had the flu, not sure how many times he went to the doc and I think even one trip to the ER. Finally he could not take it anymore went to the ER where they discovered a bleeding ulcer and he was taken into surgery. Not sure how long he has had it but for quite some time he has not been eating properly could not keep anything down, they were blaming the previous surgery he had last October but ever since this last surgery 2 weeks ago he cannot eat normally but can eat and nothing has come back up. It is horrible at times our health system, I had suggested the morning before he went to the hospital he consider a private health clinic in Toronto my dad used as he just could not get better and it was always a flu or something. He has been off work on medical leave for well over a year now and all he wants is life back.

[Armygirl76]

Oh my that is horrible Jenny.

Not to distract from your story but this is where I have an issue with our health system. I met my guy online an shortly after we started talking (a week to 2) he was in a serious car accident and injured his leg, had to have surgery and it was put in a cast. He keep saying something isn't right it feel wet in my cast it doesn't feel right. He had never broken a bone before so never had a cast and the doctors keep saying oh no no this is normal you have just never had a cast before. Finally after multiple doctors visit the doctor "to make him happy" cut into the cast where is was discovered he has a massive infection the whole inside of the cast was was soaked and falling apart from the infection, not to mention the affect on his leg. He had a massive infection which could have lead to him losing his leg thankfully he did not. But he battled that infection for months I believe and all because a doctor would not listen to him.

Sad thing is even now he has problems getting doctors to listen to him, he has cancer before I knew him and they blame everything on that and his weakened immune system. Twice now he has had to have surgery for internal issues they were saying was the flu and blaming his weakened immune system the most recent was just a few weeks ago. He was told he had the flu, not sure how many times he went to the doc and I think even one trip to the ER. Finally he could not take it anymore went to the ER where they discovered a bleeding ulcer and he was taken into surgery. Not sure how long he has had it but for quite some time he has not been eating properly could not keep anything down, they were blaming the previous surgery he had last October but ever since this last surgery 2 weeks ago he cannot eat normally but can eat and nothing has come back up. It is horrible at times our health system, I had suggested the morning before he went to the hospital he consider a private health clinic in Toronto my dad used as he just could not get better and it was always a flu or something. He has been off work on medical leave for well over a year now and all he wants is life back.

Dear gosh do I know about everything being blamed on cancer. This whole last two months has been about me trying to convince the health care system that yes I know that I have terminal cancer but that REALY not the problem right now. Honestly had I not been a crazy phyco b**** at times they would have just stuck me in a palative care room to die ( which they did lol)

Jenny wow Hun holy smokes that is so horrible I'm sorry you had to go through that some nurse dear god their lack of compassion astounds me and doctors wow.

the second time I was in the hospital for cancer 3 years ago I had explority surgery the opened me up and then closed me right back up and told me it was to bad at that point at I probably had 6 months maybe less I was pretty depressed go figure. This nasty nurse kept coming in saying you have to get up and walk around finally I snapped and said no I am going to sit right here watch my DVD and you can get the hell out of my room and go for a walk if you would like. I was kinda left alone after this, lol if she had touched me there would have been some heck to pay. Lol

[SassyAshley]

My mom's mom my nanny passed away from cancer last year and was in palutive. She had diverticulitis in her neck and a doctor in the hospital had just leaned a technique to correcting this and keep trying to use my nanny as a ginnea pig. She was dying from cancer and choose not to fight it and that point her health had deteriorated so much she would not have been able to fight it. But this doctor keep coming in and trying to talk her into the surgery he wanted to practice. It was disgusting especially since the surgery could have killed her because she was so weak and even if it did not kill her she never would have recovered and would have lost the little time she had left to take care of the things she wanted to get done.

[julesie-pie]

Ok ladies, I need your opinion! Do you think I could wear this dress to a club or is it a sunny afternoon dress??

[slambert]

there's no pic?

[julesie-pie]

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[Briwantstosave]

Hi all!

I am here- just crzy busy at work :S Will check back in tomorrow

Happy Saturday ladies!!

[Armygirl76]

Ok ladies, I need your opinion! Do you think I could wear this dress to a club or is it a sunny afternoon dress??

I think it beautiful but more of a sunny afternoon dress.

[Anna Michele]

Ok ladies, I need your opinion! Do you think I could wear this dress to a club or is it a sunny afternoon dress??

very cute def great for a sunny afternoon but if you had a lil blk jacket it could def make it an nighton the town dress

[NickiB]

I agree, if you could add something that would "sexify" it a bit, it would make it more evening/club appropriate. (If there is such a thing, lol!)

[mimzy71]

Tenting tonight with DD. Hiking tomorrow if it's not too hot. Night all!

[slambert]

I hope everyone had a great day!! We went and picked up our son from his 2 weeks away at Nana's house He's uber tired and cranky so it was a delightful day but we are happy to have him home and sleeping in his own bed where he belongs. It never feels right when he's not here. The dogs haven't left his side all day!

Tomorrow we are taking him and a friend to a nice picnic park with a little river going through for a picnic. We're going to take the dogs too and make a day out of it!! I hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekend, it's only 2 more sleeps till prezzies!!!!