All Purpose Rant Away Thread - 3.2.1 GO!

[saveadollardiva]

Not that I doubt you, but let me be the judge of that It's a double edge sword isn't it? You feel good that you look younger, then you have people that treat you based on you looking younger. Nobody ever gets my age right i.e. I am always placed in a lower bracket. It helps that I look after myself (am not a gym rat) by eating well, run everyday (in shorts vice spandex), can still complete a full marathon under 3hrs at my age, don't have a beer gut / muffin top

Good for you though sister

LOL don't get me wrong, yes it is nice to look younger, but, when you have people treating you like you said a different way because they think your a kid/teen can be a frustrating. Even my voice sounds like a kid. I had a client call me at work, and, he thought he had dialed the wrong number because he thought he can called a kid/teen by mistake lol. I was like "whoo wait, yes it is me lol" and yes I sound like a child, but, I swear I am over 18 lol.

[beachdown]

I am guessing you don't use the word "like" in every sentence like some people use the F-word? That in itself can make you sound juvenile. It's like, like, like seriously, like am just going to eat now, like what's up with that girlfriend..you get the gist

LOL don't get me wrong, yes it is nice to look younger, but, when you have people treating you like you said a different way because they think your a kid/teen can be a frustrating. Even my voice sounds like a kid. I had a client call me at work, and, he thought he had dialed the wrong number because he thought he can called a kid/teen by mistake lol. I was like "whoo wait, yes it is me lol" and yes I sound like a child, but, I swear I am over 18 lol.

[saundyl]

I fail to see how a druggie, gambler, pathological liar, messy, smoker...can be "incredibly" beneficial to me, if there is a chance they will turn into a liability in the future ?????

Just because someone smokes, is messy, gambles etc doesn't mean there aren't a myriad of other good qualities that make a person worth knowing.

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[lecale]

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[saundyl]

Some of us men are good for that. I can never live with someone that just wants to stuff their face / are not very active / sit around and watch shows / and let themselves go. There is a lot of false advertisement out there...once people get married, they see it as free for all with food. Same way I could never live with a smoker, pet owner or heavy drinker

There are also health issues like hyperthyroidism that cause weight gain that people don't know they have. Don't assume people are lazy or don't care or intentionally false advertised. Situations change.

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[beachdown]

Where did I say "they aren't worth knowing"? We all have acquaintances, but do you want to live and do things with everyone you know? I'll never compromise on a smoker, drunk, crazy, liar, drunk, gambler as a partner is the point am making, no matter how good they are in bed.

If someone is taking more from me than they are bringing to the table...it's not happening period!

Just because someone smokes, is messy, gambles etc doesn't mean there aren't a myriad of other good qualities that make a person worth knowing.

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[saveadollardiva]

[QUOTE=beachdown;6489120]Where did I say "they aren't worth knowing"? We all have acquaintances, but do you want to live and do things with everyone you know? I'll never compromise on a smoker, drunk, crazy, liar, drunk, gambler as a partner is the point am making, no matter how good they are in bed.

If someone is taking more from me than they are bringing to the table...it's not happening period![/QUOTE

I get what beachdown is saying here, if your giving 110% into a relationship and the other person is only putting in like 50% or is added things into the relationship that are not healthy for either party, then, sometimes a partner needs to look at the other partners actions and either work with there partner to better them, or, in some cases some people may leave the relationship/friendship because they do not agree with what the other person is doing or not putting the effort needed. Like if a partner is a drug addict, this can cause distrust, anger, disappointment and health issues when it comes to the relationship. So the partner in that relationship who is with the drug addict partner has to make a choice for themselves. Stay and try and help them, leave them, or be with them and let them keeping acting and being a drug addict. But, I think it depends on each relationship and what is happening in reach relationship. Every couple is different.

[couponlady]

There are also health issues like hyperthyroidism that cause weight gain that people don't know they have. Don't assume people are lazy or don't care or intentionally false advertised. Situations change.

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very well said.

[lecale]

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[saveadollardiva]

Sounds like a great guy, lucky you.

Yes I am very lucky

[saveadollardiva]

But you're not really giving 110% if your partner has a problem and you throw them out like yesterday's trash. I think in that case you are both giving 50%.

I agree with you that, if your partner has a problem you should work with them to fix the problem or issues and not tosh them out like trash. Of course if you love someone full heartily you will do whatever you can to help your partner with their problems and work with them to better themselves. But, if your partner will not change, will not get help, or simply does not want to change for the better of the relationship after so many attempts by you to help them, then, the partner doing all the work to help them has to take a good hard look at the situation if this is healthy for them, emotionally and physically. I know love is love, but, sometimes if you truly love someone you have to do "tough love" to get them to see that what they are doing is effecting you and the relationship. AND if that means you have to remove yourself from that person's life to better yourself to make sure you stay healthy emotionally and physically, then, your partner has to understand that just because they have chosen to do things that are unhealthy does not mean you have to chose it as well. AGAIN it depends on the relationship and what issues and problems they are facing together as a couple.

[walkonby]

[lecale]

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[saveadollardiva]

See, I don't think "tough love" is love. It's hate disguised IMO. You can cut someone out of your life because they are doing damage to you, just don't call it love. Call it hate and be done with it.

If the other partner is suffering with issues and you cut them out of you life, you are going to do a lot of damage to them. If you have to inflict that much hurt on someone because you have no other choice, don't call it love.

I respect your views and thoughts completely, but, let me use this as an example:

If your with someone who is a drug addict, and, you have a child with them, and they are doing drugs in the house, were your child can easily get a hold of the drugs they are using and could maybe ingest it by accident. Or you can not have your partner watch your child because they are under the influence all the time and you have tried getting them help a million times, and, they don't want to go, or don't want to help themselves then you think that would be ok to have yourself and your child in that environment? The environment your partner has created. You have the right to leave and go to a safe environment for yourself and your child. You can still help your partner, but, you do not have to be in that environment to help them as well.

Also, let's say your partner is using heroin and is using dirty needles that have been used by others. You have an intimate relationship with them, and, you get something like AIDS/HIV because of that. Is that fair to you? No, not at all. All I am saying is that people have the right to be in safe environment at all times emotionally and physically. You can still help your partner, but, also in the process protect yourself.

Again it does depending on the situation and issues the couple is dealing with.

[Momof3girlies]

wanting ice cream from DQ, however they are closed here for the season.